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  • Like I said, that's not reasonable behavior. They didn't clearly communicate what they expected from you, and then got angry about it. Also, if you didn't do the dishes, I wonder if they would have been angry about that instead. From what you're describing, it sounds like you made a very reasonable decision. But even if you were in the wrong (I don't think you were), it's still partly on them– ND people tend to need more concrete, direct communication, and it doesn't sound like your partner is making an effort to communicate with you effectively

    Really though, I can't imagine getting angry at someone for doing chores, unless it was super loud like vacuuming. It's not like doing dishes makes much noise.

    Why does your partner expect you to bend over backward for them, when they are unwilling to do the same for you? Why are they expecting you to structure your whole life around them, when they aren't taking any steps to coexist with you? (If something as quiet as you doing dishes in the other room keeps them up, why aren't they using white noise and earplugs? You shouldn't be expected to try to match their sleep schedule)

    Also, I still think it's a bit crazy that they expect you home by 9:00, and 30min late is inexcusable. I assume that I'm younger than you, but with my friends it's not uncommon to show up an hour late, and stay out until 1.

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  • I know this post probably isn't the full story, but from what you've written, it your partner seems narcissistic and controlling. It sounds like they're unwilling or unable to extend you grace, or see things your way, but they expect you to conform to their needs.

    I think it's pretty unreasonable for them to have a curfew for you, and even more unreasonable that they're angry about you being a half hour later than they assumed. (not to mention that you were literally at a group that you chose to go to specifically to be a better partner)

    Also they get angry at you when you do the dishes, right after they told you to, even though they weren't sleeping? That's not normal behavior. A mature person would simply talk to you in the morning, not start a fight (I'm sure a fight has 10x the effect on sleep compared to distant sounds of running water for 5 mins) Even if sleep is really that important to them, it's unfair to expect you to tiptoe around them. Have they even tried white noise, or earplugs?

  • Report: Apple CEO “cares about nothing else” Than Building Breakout AR Glasses Before Meta

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    Circumcision at NYC hospital almost made baby bleed to death, parents say

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  • It would be like castrating the entire penis and testicles.

    More like removing the glans and foreskin, but that doesn't make it much better. There are definitely varying degrees of awfulness, but it's all bad.

    While there are some truly evil and horrific practices like removing the clitoris or sewing the vulva shut, some female genital mutation is "just" removing the clitoral hood, which is directly analagous to the foreskin.

    Most people can agree that this practice is deeply wrong, and that it is still genital mutilation. And so I think categorizing male genital mutilation separately as "circumcision" is downplaying it.

  • You can only use one for the rest of your life, which you choosing?

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  • <3 is named that for a reason. The thread pitch is pretty versatile, it's not too long, it's countersunk, and it's Robertson.

  • You can only use one for the rest of your life, which you choosing?

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  • Torx/Robertson > Allen >>> Phillips

    Hex and Slot can both be the best option in certain situations.

    I think I'll go with # <3. Medium threads, shorter length, and countersink.

  • You can only use one for the rest of your life, which you choosing?

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  • I would rank slotted higher than Phillips because it is really easy to manufacture, and it still works when it's really shallow. There are lots of places where it's the only option that makes sense.

  • A real dogshit guy just bought it

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  • It's a pretty nonsensical analogy. I think they just wanted to complain about vegans.

  • Pedro Pascal calls JK Rowling a ‘heinous loser’ in wake of supreme court gender ruling

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  • Yeah I just skimmed the essay, and it's pretty bad. There's a lot of false claims, a lot of misunderstandings and misrepresentations, and a lot of thinly veiled transphobic phrases and remarks.

    It just comes across as very dishonest to me. Although maybe she actually thinks she is being fair, thoughtful and caring, who knows.

  • To whom it may concern

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  • I've bought quite a few items of clothing of the "wrong gender" from them...

  • What is this font from/called?

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  • I've been wondering about this. It seems like it's been around for a long time, but I'm seeing it more recently.

    I kinda like the letterforms, even though the kerning and balance of visual weight are terrible. . . . . . oiter

  • I never had problems with permission again after I know the real power of sudo

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  • Yes, and it also lets me use my neovim config.

  • I never had problems with permission again after I know the real power of sudo

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  • It doesn't edit the file directly, it creates a temp file that replaces the file when saving. It means that the editor is run as the user, not as root.

  • I'll never be more than a fetish to people

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  • It's hard to say without knowing what sort of a friendship you have and what she's like, but I think you should really consider telling her how you feel– about her, or at least how you feel in general.

  • Transitioning in STEM

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  • We should have fewer male babies.

    This is a pretty radical take, and I understand why most people in the thread don't like your suggestion, but honestly think it has potential.

    Our current concept of gender is broken, and short of abolishing gender as a societal concept, I think this could bring balance.

    Put simply, we have a patriarchal society, where men are seen as the default, and positions of power skew heavily towards men. Yet men are also valued a lot less than women.

    I think changing the ratio of genders could actually even out all of these factors.

  • Gen Z grads say their college degrees were a waste of time and money as AI infiltrates the workplace

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  • Eh, sometimes the training takes 4-8+ years, and is only achievable by people with a certain disposition or talent.

    I do think it makes sense for education and work to be better integrated (apprenticeships make a lot of sense)

    But "discriminating" based on education and skill is just making a decision based on the two most important factors. I don't want some unskilled HS student as my surgeon.

    If anything, I think hiring should be based on skill more, not based on previous jobs you've had and how good you are at interviews.

  • mmmm proper mammilian

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  • Very interesting article, worth posting by itself

  • Did the western world just suddenly go back to pretending wrestling is "real" for some reason?

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  • There's definitely a grey area. "Sports" is a spectrum from competitive team based games, to any recreational activity that requires athleticism.

    In this case my point is that wrestling presents itself as a competitive sport, while that aspect of it is fake.

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  • Neovim if you're a text editor snob, vi if you're a minimalism snob.

  • Are you threatening me?

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  • The Venn diagram between those two things is basically a circle at this point.