Both of you are correct. You're not wrong: people often complain about the political landscape but take no action, and use excuses like "I have no time and absolutely no way to make time, so somebody else is going to have to magically fix things for me!".
But you also need to recognize that the US is a state with such a sistematic failure that you're asking that a lot of people sacrifice the little time and energy they have for a cause that, in reality, would require decades of targeted collective effort, which immediately makes things less appealing and gathering a critical mass becomes significantly harder.
You did not have to do me dirty like that