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iltoroargento

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  • No means no

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  • First thing I ever do with a new computer is delete it.

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    Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage?

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  • For the most part, yes. For the parts that are a no, they are going to be really unhealthy and chaotic relationships. It definitely depends on the person, but this can be a very challenging social dynamic. It sounds pretty chaotic and I am not sure how many people would be able to deal with that day by day.

    To your last point, emotional communication is always tough and it's really hard to piece things together to get your thoughts across when tensions are high. I think that coming from a mindset of refining and explaining, to yourself first and then to others, why you feel a certain way or did a certain action could be a good start.

    Additionally, a lot of people do not respond well to "tough love". I would argue that for the majority of scenarios, it's one of the least successful ways to go about showing support and care for someone else. Setting clear and respectful boundaries is one thing, but providing only conditional support is a great way to tank a relationship and have someone distrust you. I think it's also helpful to unpack why you feel you need to act that way with people you care about. For me, that took a lot of work (still does) and goes back to my relationship with my dad (which has its positives and negatives, a lot of which we've worked through over the years).

    One of the most important ideas I've come across with communication is that you should ask yourself if your actions are helping you meet your goals in the conversation. If you really want to build a strong, trusting, relationship with someone, that's going to look wildly different to the actions you would take if you really want to distance yourself from someone. And if you mess up with how you presented yourself or how you meant to come across, address it as soon as you possibly can. Clear communication is key and being clear with yourself and your goals/wants/needs/preferences is the start of that.

    Hope that helps lol good luck out there. There's a lot of happiness to bring to the world if you work toward it.

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    For the most part, yes. For the parts that are a no, they are going to be really unhealthy and chaotic relationships.

  • Middle school students hold walkout during Hegseth visit to US base in Germany

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  • Yeah, that's hardcore. There's always the middle school angst, but for public figures to get this treatment, it's damning.

  • Rank your Chief Engineers of TNG Enterprise

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  • I also would have accepted:

    1. Geordie
    2. Who?

  • Danes hit back at Trump with ‘buy California bid’ as they vow ‘to take over Disneyland and bring hygge to Hollywood’

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  • "I, for one, welcome our new Viking overlords."

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    What's she thinking about?

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  • Lol she has entrapped you. She likes it and wants you to rub her belly so she can bunny kick your hands

  • "I can make you all go away!"

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  • I got a big head start early in life in not giving a shit about what other people thought.

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  • Ah, yes, Thag Simmons... He discovered the thagomizer at his own peril...

  • I got a big head start early in life in not giving a shit about what other people thought.

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  • I mean... Do any teens think older generations are cool? I didn't think that was a thing.

  • I guess this means I need to get blown

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  • Way, hey, blow the man down!

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    Karoline Leavitt tells press 'Jesus didn't have electricity either'

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  • As a side note, I am sure someone named Jesus has already been deported by the current administration.

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    Hope you forgot about it

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  • Context?

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    What are the potential risks and benefits of implementing encryption backdoors for law enforcement?

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  • At a certain point, we're back to philosophy. Do you really want to build in a back door in the first place? What is the trade off between privacy and security and potential use by any enforcement agency in apprehending who they consider to be bad actors? How much of the resources of those agencies are actually allocated to taking down real threats to actual people vs protecting moneyed interest?

  • No mommy I don't want it

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  • Source? For science.

  • The cat distribution system finally found me

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  • What an adorable little floof.

  • I think some people can't tolerate silence and need to fill the air

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  • Not anymore, though. Use a different search engine if you want any results worth looking at.

  • Is it just me, or is the whole world in a bad mood?

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  • Not just you. Lots of negative feeling going around. If I could put a word to what I saw today, it would be "grim".

  • rule 🤔

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  • What are some actual good sour sour candy?

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  • Depends on the flavor. It isn't sour in and of itself, but I have had some pretty sour flavors of saltwater taffy.

    I also was a big fan of the blue sour punch straws but am not sure if they changed their flavor over the last twenty or so years lol it seems like a lot of sour candies have so that may be something to watch out for.