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flicker

@ flicker @lemmy.dbzer0.com

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ADHD advocate, former certified peer recovery specialist (specializing in suicide ideation when comorbid with neurodivergence.)

I don't usually pay attention to whichever instance I've drifted into from all, so if you see me in a weird place, that's why!

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • I encourage them to continue trying. For science.

    Eta: please don't tell me about it unless you succeed. I was just trying to be supportive.

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • Please don't believe literally anything you read that references procreation genetics. It turns out, humans are complicated, wars happen, some people value people for their feet more than their faces... there's literally no data that's concrete enough to be valuable enough, and anyone telling you otherwise is doing so either because they're lying to themselves, to you, or selling something.

    Source: having read quite a lot of it over my many years on this earth, and watching it be destroyed time and again. Hell, I could write a paper arguing that people typically choose mates based on their appearance, their intelligence, their height, their income, their geography, their history of family trauma, their interests, their smell... And find documentation of various dubiousness to support each argument.

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • These words are in English, but the sentiment is so foreign to me I can't seem to comprehend it.

    ...might be fried from work and classwork, tho.

  • ADHD organisation!

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  • Drugs!

    But the more helpful answer is; I break it down into as many steps as possible in a document or on a piece of paper. Then, when looking at all that is overwhelming, I take the first few steps and put them on their own document. And then I plan a break after those.

    And at the end of the break I take the next few.

    Now you might be wondering- "flicker, what if I look at that list, and I still can't figure out where to start?"

    And my answer is, if I made the list of steps and it still seems like too much, I try making a list for those steps.

    But I also treat it like an addict does kicking their addiction.

    This huge list might seem like a lot, but even if I can't do it all, even if I can't do much? I can do this one thing. I put on music to make it easier to tolerate, or TV in the background, or both, and resolve to do just one thing.

    Because there's times when one thing is too many. So if I do one, I beat that record.

    If I do the one thing, I might do another? But that's to decide after the one thing. Just doing one is a big deal. We will start there.

  • ADHD organisation!

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  • If you need tips for organizing your ADHD, I'm here to help!*

    *while the stimulant medication is in effect

  • Anime Recommendations

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  • People are sleeping on Little Witch Academia. If I had seen it as an early teen girl, I would've been obsessed.

  • Anime Recommendations

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  • I really loved Space Dandy, but if you're claiming it doesn't sexualize women, the entire restaurant of Boobies would like to have a word with you.

    ETA: And we meet Meow doing upskirts.

  • It Really Felt Like 2 Friends Fighting

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  • I'm commenting so I can look into why later because there's not a lot of m@teys who'd be proud of that.

  • me_irl

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  • Fuck blanket acceptance of odors. A slogan on a t-shirt or a bunch of piercings or a vibrant hair color don't have the power to make me physically ill, but odors can and do.

  • For the little guys.

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  • Lol I'm ridiculous

  • "safe"

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  • I want out of this mall is what I want. This is no way to run a business!

  • For the little guys.

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  • I'm glad this was your takeaway as well because it felt to me like the second person was belittling the first, and... they really should shut the fuck up.

  • Explain yourself, Dr. Noonien Soong.

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  • Explain yourself, Dr. Noonien Soong.

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  • "I call him... Fister Roboto."

    "But he doesn't just fist! Tell 'em!"

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  • There's misplaced, lost, and I put it somewhere safe.

    The last one is the most dangerous and you'll never see it again.

  • nyom

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  • Fruit clotting agent.

  • ADHD gaming

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  • This is the ADHD memes community.

    It gets very frustrating when people comment on every meme suggesting that this feeling might be caused by something else. ADHD unfortunately has to fight pretty powerfully to occupy a space for just ADHD.

  • Sound familiar?

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  • I have family visiting later this week so I have a ton of stuff I want done before they get here...

    So of course I played House Flipper all day.

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  • Additionally, I work 12 hour shifts, so I either have to do an IR in the afternoon, or an XR in the late morning...