Context is really important.
I agree that the QLD legislation is scary - it's bullshit that their legislation is going to "proscribe" that specific phrase, so if one utters it then that's an offense regardless of intent or context.
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I just sync the titles I want to listen to, to my phone using syncthing.
It just works reliably in all cases with no dicking around.
Audiobookshelf is fine, but if Wife Approval Factor is important this is what I'd do.
That said my partner and I are both team android so if you're iOS then your SOL with syncthing I think.