I understand the frustration get how annoying it is but I also can see it from leah perspective. Honestly I think this is a misunderstanding and I don't think anyone is trying to be toxic (at least not initially. The your work was shit comment is rude af)
This may not be what you want to hear but I think you should consider whether all this argument and feeling bad is worth the potential upside. What happened was shitty but you shouldn't let this ruin your day.
Feel like this should be included here. I'm pretty sure I found the original pr. I couldn't find an associate issue so I'm not sure where the miscommunication about waiting happened.
https://codeberg.org/libreboot/lbmk/pulls/181