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  • Our duty

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  • So I totally get what you mean, when you say that your kids don’t affect you the same way other people do. To me that just sounds like you’re one of the good eggs :D

    Thanks, but I think what it really means is that the way you relate to your kids is not like anyone else. Like I never imagined that I would be ok with cleaning up another person's shit. People working in nursing homes handle that stuff every day but I just couldn't. But when it's your own kid, it's just... different. Still objectively disgusting but somehow acceptable, in the same way that I'm ok with wiping my own ass because it's a part of me. Well, in some way my kids are a part of me too.

  • Our duty

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  • I like that I get a break from other people because it overwhelms me to be around more than three people for long stretches of time. That just how I am and that is why I'm childless.

    Is that with everybody or just people you don't know and feel comfortable with? I mean, I'm intensely uncomfortable in many social situations but my kids don't trigger that response at all.

    Which is not to say it's all fun and games. They are immensely hard work and the choices you have about how you spend your time, what holidays or other leisure activities you do, tend to be dictated by the presence of kids. Even if it's something you do to take time off from the kids, that's still driven by the kids in a way. It's a whole different set of priorities, though I don't regret having them at all.

  • Marjorie Taylor Greene Drops Bombshell: Trump ‘Fought the Hardest’ to Bury Epstein Files, Warns MAGA It Was No Hoax

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  • Sometimes, even basically evil people have a line they won't cross. Deceiving the public and corrupting the rule of law beyond repair, just to protect a cabal of pedophile rapists, seems to be that line, for an alarmingly small number of republicans. I guess she just didn't think it would come to that. MTG is probably just your basic greedy racist vindictive kind of evil. I can imagine why the sadistic child raping stuff might be a deal breaker for some people.

  • What Peter Thiel Saw in Jeffrey Epstein

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  • The palantirs were a communication and information network, seemingly useful, alluring and powerful, but inherently untrustworthy, and particularly dangerous for the weak minded. Sauron used them to extend his ability to spy on others, to spread despair and extend his influence, corrupting the mind of Saruman to wreak death and destruction far beyond his own domain. Of course the deceiver was himself deceived, and his reliance on the palantir was a major factor leading to his downfall. Is it such an inappropriate name?

  • cant take it anymore

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  • That's where you're wrong. The cow is real but you can't see it because it has 0% opacity. There's not many "unexplained" events that still don't make sense when you know there's a transparent cow out there somewhere

  • Iranians set fire to the flags of Israel and the United States, as well as an obelisk and a statue of Baal which they described as a symbol of Satan in response to release of the Epstein documents.

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  • It's a pretty random bunch of things to burn though. My guess is they had this stuff lying around for a while and they needed to make room for something else

  • Are gender-exclusive groups ever ok?

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  • Your choir has a good reason to be men only, since that creates a certain sound.

    That's true. Which is why I pointed out that my reasons for joining the choir are not just about the sound. I want a male space, and I don't think I'm wrong to want that.

    I don’t think an all-female board game club that is open to the public but only lets women join would be OK.

    Personally I don't see what's wrong with an all female board game club, especially if it's the kind of board games that tend to mostly attract male players. It may encourage female participation where they would otherwise feel uncomfortable, and male players would probably have their own club anyway in that case. But then in the absence of a thriving all female club, an all male board game club would be a problematic thing, since it would specifically exclude a female minority. Context matters and it's important to be inclusive, but inclusivity doesn't always mean putting everyone in a single group.

    But as soon as you do something publicly, you don’t get to say “everybody can come except group X” without a good reason.

    OK, but what's a good reason? We often have groups for limited age ranges, for usually good reasons. You've mentioned some good reasons why men should be excluded from some women's groups. So it's not like nobody ever gets excluded from anything. And while men may have less compelling reasons to exclude women, in general single sex groups are a valuable social thing for both men and women. One of the reasons you don't see many strictly single gender clubs is because there are de facto single gender clubs which don't need to apply a rule. People socialize in a single gender category without having to formally exclude anyone. Which is fine, and avoids unnecessary polemics.

    I'm just saying that we should recognize the value in this. It's a shame that male only spaces tend to be associated with patriarchy or toxic masculinity, when they also fulfill a real social need.

  • Are gender-exclusive groups ever ok?

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  • Gender exclusive groups are OK when there is a legitimate reason.

    What is a legitimate reason though? Consider...

    1. men do not face the problem of being put in uncomfortable situations by women almost anywhere they go, so they have less topics or activities where they feel like they need a men’s only group. For most topics/activities men can go to a mixed-gender group and have the same experience as they would in a male-only group. Women can’t.

    You seem to be saying that a legitimate reason would be a need to escape from people hitting on you or the equivalent. How about if you just want to hang out with people of your own gender? Is that not OK? Men do not have the "same experience" in mixed gender groups. Socializing in a single gender group is different from in a mixed gender group and both are important. You are dismissing the need for men to socialize among themselves on the basis that they might make an important decision that should have included people outside that group. Now I understand that this has historically been (and in some cases continues to be) an issue with work-based men's-only clubs/outings etc, and it should be addressed in that context. But it's not a valid reason to reject the existence of male only groups or spaces in their entirety, is it?

    Case in point: I sing in a male voice choir. I enjoy it not just on a musical level, but also for the fact that it is a male space. It's not about hating women, or having prejudices about women. It's not actually about women at all, which is kind of my point. I have enough women in my life, what I need is to be around men sometimes. Nor is it about “we want to address a typical male problem” either, unless you consider difficulty with socializing to be a typical male problem, which, yeah, arguably it is in some cases. But guys just like doing things with guys sometimes. It's a different dynamic and it's good for us.

  • if 1: return True

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  • if (true) return BIG;

  • Australians banned teens from using social media. Now, Australians are worried about teenagers going outside with e-bikes

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  • You let them leave the house and meet up with friends, next thing you know they are riding around on bikes! Where will it end?

  • An oopsie occured

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  • Would you like to leave any feedback to your driver? If you purchase a funeral wreath we can print your comments on a card and attach it

  • An oopsie occured

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  • Probably hit a fairground carousel

  • FBI Couldn’t Get into WaPo Reporter’s iPhone Because It Had Lockdown Mode Enabled

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  • Well... yes? AFAIK that was Alex Jones talking about endocrine disruption caused by atrazine in herbicides. Frogs turning gay seems a silly thing to focus on, but the health and environmental effects of herbicides and pesticides are a valid concern. By turning it into a joke, intentionally or not, he was doing his bit to invalidate serious discussion of the issue.

  • ... why?

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  • I feel ya. In the end I just concluded I don't know enough about motorbikes to see what the problem is

  • Ad blocking is alive and well, despite Chrome's attempts to make it harder

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  • So weird that companies waste so much time trying to find ways to stop me from stopping them from wasting my time.

    Maybe they should do a study in exactly where the ad revenue comes from. I strongly suspect that people who use ad blockers, and people who potentially generate revenue from ads, are two non-intersecting sets.

  • FBI Couldn’t Get into WaPo Reporter’s iPhone Because It Had Lockdown Mode Enabled

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  • That's not by accident. Every right wing conspiracy is a ridiculous pastiche of the shit they are really getting up to, or intend to in the near future. No doubt Pizzagate was invented to make people incredulous about claims of secret cabals of kid rapists in elite circles. Every accusation a confession.

  • HD 137010 b

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  • Haven't you seen Alien:Prometheus? Humanoid aliens sending their pedos to earth and dispersing their DNA to create a whole new pedosystem was what got us into this mess in the first place. We must not repeat the cycle!

  • So this is why they changed it

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  • Computers are people too

  • Italy’s foreign minister defends ICE attendance at Winter Olympics after outrage: ‘It’s not like the SS are coming’

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  • You're not nitpicking. It's like saying USA is all Nazis. A country is more than its current government. Unfortunately neither Italy nor the USA have a particularly well functioning democracy.

  • Italy’s foreign minister defends ICE attendance at Winter Olympics after outrage: ‘It’s not like the SS are coming’

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  • Well obviously they will be checking for illegal immigrants that might be hiding in Italy