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Thrillhouse

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  • rejection anxiety and real pain

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  • I don’t put in effort to the extent that it bothers me about it. If it’s convenient sure. If not oh well next time.

    One of our friends used to get all bent out of shape because she would prepare all of this food for a party and no one would eat it. I was like girl, stop preparing food then if it’s making you upset. If people get hungry we’ll order pizza.

    Sometimes the things you think people will be into are not the things people want to do.

    Scale back. Neuroboring people don’t put as much effort into coworkers and social connections as much as I think ADHD brains do because I don’t think they think about it that hard. I learned this when I invited coworkers to my wedding and 2 showed up for like an hour - and I’m pretty sure one of them dragged the other.

    People with kids are super flaky too.

    I’m just saying yeah you aren’t the priority to these people. Find people who will make you the priority. Keep looking. These connections happen slowly and change over time.

  • rejection anxiety and real pain

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  • It sounds like you might not know the people who bailed enough to invest that much emotionally into them.

    If you thought you did and now you’re not sure then it sounds like you can now have some clarity that they might not be as close to you as you feel to them. Time to pause and question why you’re putting emotional energy into people who aren’t invested.

    I’ve been working on this a lot myself. I kind of realized that I was investing a lot of time and energy into friends who live a 5 hour drive away and it’s really convenient for them to have me always drive there. On the flip side none of them have ever made the drive to come visit me. So instead of rearranging my whole life to make a weekend work with them and expending great energy and effort to do so, I started bowing out more often. It’s been better for my peace. Love my friends but I don’t have to run myself ragged visiting all the time because they certainly aren’t doing that.

    I put together a huge birthday party for my sister including this whole group. My birthday came around? No one did anything for me and they were all busy, even my sister. That’s fine, it’s telling me I don’t need to make the effort in the future.

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  • If you’re planning on sinking much money, time, and effort into an event it’s best to do formal invitations with RRSPs.

    It’s really hard to organize something for a lot of people to participate in and requires a lot of communication and reminders.

    I think you discovered who your true close friends are and now you can scale back and not let the rest of them (the bailers) in on your cool life. Something I’ve had to deal with but is better in the long run.

  • Jill Stein Is Killing the Green Party

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  • It makes total sense for Russia to make Jill Stein a Russian asset because it neutralizes an anti-oil organization. Oil is very important to Russia’s economy so of course they don’t want any phase-out of fossil fuels.

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  • Take that one up with my English professors in University.

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  • Good conversation on the topic here

    Basically, it is becoming more common in English writing to use the masculine “hero” as gender neutral when the figure is a famous and/or historical figure.

    If it is a fictional character, “heroine” is still widely used.

    There’s been a wider trend of using gender neutral terms in the language. “They” as a replacement for “he” or “she”, for example, used to be improper but is now quite widely accepted and not only when speaking about a non-binary person.

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  • This case is heartbreaking.

    He confessed! Shame on those lawyers for this trash narrative.

    No adult would blow up their whole life at the age of 71 if this was consensual.

    Mme. Pelicot is a hero to women.

  • China-linked ‘Spamouflage’ network mimics Americans online to sway US political debate

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  • Let’s be real they’re not just doing it to the US.

  • Musk's Starlink backtracks and says it will comply with judge's order to block X in Brazil

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  • I wonder when he’ll go to rehab. He’s so unhinged.

  • Israel Bombs Shelter, Killing 11 as Polio Vaccination Effort Begins

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  • I’m using a hyperbolic comparison to point out that Israel’s justification for killing Palestinian civilians is wrong. October 7th doesn’t give the IDF carte blanche to genocide a whole civilian population.

    I’m pointing out that Israel often claims that Palestinian civilians are connected to / harbouring / being used as shields for Hamas so it’s basically fair game to kill them (they are enemy combatants).

    Given that stance, shouldn’t the opposite also be true because Israel has compulsory military service. Because of this, all of their civilians are technically connected to the IDF so are they not also enemy combatants?

  • Israeli outpost settlers rapidly seizing West Bank land

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  • God I wonder why Palestinians are so upset. Oh wait:

    Last October, Palestinian grandmother Ayesha Shtayyeh says a man pointed a gun at her head and told her to leave the place she had called home for 50 years.

  • Israel Bombs Shelter, Killing 11 as Polio Vaccination Effort Begins

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  • I don’t understand how Israel’s excuses always boil down to Hamas was hiding there.

    Israel’s population does compulsory military service, does that make them all IDF and fair game as a military target? Of course not. So why is “Hamas = Everywhere” a valid excuse when “IDF = Everywhere” isn’t.

  • Former University of Kentucky student pleads guilty to assault in racist attack captured on video

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  • Good for the woman who was attacked to maintain composure. That must have been really hard. From the article:

    Spring said she understood it was critical that she remained composed even while being attacked.   

    "I wanted to make sure I acted appropriately so that I could keep my job because the script could have been flipped at any time if I had retaliated," Spring said

    It’s so heartbreaking that the bolded part is systemic racism. Like she can’t defend herself because that terrible white woman would have pretended to be the victim? Fuck all of that and fuck that white girl.

  • Baby in Gaza partly paralysed from polio in territory’s first case for 25 years

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  • I really don’t think Netanyahu and his genocide cabinet would stop even if they stopped receiving weapons and/or funding. You could prosecute under the ICC but he’s not going to attend any sort of trial. Sanctions will likely never happen.

    I’m not saying what the west (it’s not just the US) is doing is right in backing Netanyahu’s cabinet. What I am saying is this leader’s actions are a prime example of evil if I’ve ever seen it in my lifetime.

    What happened to Israel on Oct. 6 was evil beyond comprehension. It is not ok to genocide a whole population on that basis.

    Additionally, it’s disheartening that Trump would be even worse amid reports he’s counseled the Israeli PM to avoid a ceasefire for his own political aspirations. Dangerous fascist dictators flock together, it would seem.

  • AOC slams Trump, saying he would sell the country ‘for a dollar’.

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  • Our parties are more left leaning than US ones, yeah. So the left-most leaning party, the NDP is the Bernies and AOCs. Just slightly to the right of them but not by much are the centre-left (some could argue centre, for Canada) Liberals aka US Dems but these are still left of the US Dems. Then you have the Conservatives who used to be centre right but they’re really flirting with being firmly right which is STILL to the left of the US Repubs. So yeah, we’re pretty left.

    Here’s a good breakdown someone wrote on the other site:

    There's a Daily Show from back in the Stewart days when Harper's Conservatives won the federal election in Canada. The line went something like:

    "Right wing parties are winning everywhere! In Canada, the Conservative Party, or as we'd know it here, the Gay Rainbow Alliance, has won their election."

    If that gives you any idea.

    The NDP are mostly in-line with the further left of the Dems, but realistically, the Liberals are only slightly more towards the centre than them. The Conservatives are historically right of centre, but still left of most of the American center. That was largely true before the Progressive Conservatives failed, merged with the Reform party, and became the Conservative Party of Canada.

    That said, the Conservative parties have been moving further right in recent years. Some of this was because their supporters were generally finance, oil, large corporations, etc., so the policies they pushed forward were usually beneficial to them. But more recently they've been pursuing a lighter version of US-style populism. Mostly though, their platform for the past 3 leaders seems to be "aren't you sick of Trudeau yet?" because they don't have much substance in anything else they claim to support.

  • AOC slams Trump, saying he would sell the country ‘for a dollar’.

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  • They need to pay some lip service to progressives for now to get elected.

    AIPAC’s funding casts doubt on how progressive the Dems are allowed to be in the long term.

  • AOC slams Trump, saying he would sell the country ‘for a dollar’.

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  • Yes thank you. It didn’t read as natural - that’s the word.

    It’s disheartening that one can’t disagree on this topic without being eaten alive. I’m not saying elect Donald Trump and the couchfucker or anything ffs. Plus, I’m Canadian - so probably more left leaning than any US Dem - and as I’ve expressed, I really want the US to get their shit together.

    I’ve done Toastmasters. I’m a writer for a living. I know how to give feedback on speeches. I also acknowledged that not every speech is received the same way by every viewer.

    I’m not even saying she’s bad - I’m just saying she could be GREAT with more practice. I don’t understand why this is a shocking thing to say.

  • AOC slams Trump, saying he would sell the country ‘for a dollar’.

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  • Nope, just saying what makes an impactful speech to me 🤷‍♀️

    I’m allowed to disagree about the speech.

  • AOC slams Trump, saying he would sell the country ‘for a dollar’.

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  • There’s nothing holding her back from being a great speaker like Obama. She needs more time and practice to develop her skills further to get to that next level. And maybe a better speechwriter.

    I’m definitely a fan of hers, but felt that this could have been executed better. She did not have a lot of vocal variation and came out blazing fairly early on in the speech. Not going to rewatch it, but that was my perspective from last night. At one point I was like whoa Kimberly Guilfoyle, take it down a notch.

    I do understand the need to be angry but it’s much more impactful when vocal variation, pitch, tone and volume are employed more effectively to build toward the anger.