A Matriarchy based on the same values and role distributions would also be harmful
The Patriarchy by any other name…
A Matriarchy based on the same values and role distributions would also be harmful
The Patriarchy by any other name…
Was just sharing what works for me. Didn’t mean to downplay the difficulty of dealing with overstimulation.
I get that it’s not always easy (or even possible), but I also find that causing concern or distress in others only exacerbates the issue for me. Nothing helps my overstimulation less than having someone act like I’m having a medical emergency. So I do my best to mask and give as short and honest of an explanation as possible.
But I get that not everyone has the same response. If your overstimulation gets so bad that you can’t manage to avoid causing concern in others, then you will obviously need your own solutions. And if you find one that works, feel free to share.


That’s fair. And like I said, seamless landings and planetary travel are cool, but they don’t make a game good on their own.
That said, I’d call it less an “excuse not to like the game” and more a tangible thing players can point to when the real problem is harder to put into words. For a lot of longtime Bethesda fans, imho, that problem is that Starfield failed to deliver the Bethesda-style “believable world.”
Bethesda were never just the “see that mountain, climb it” developers. They were the “every object has a 3D model, every building has an interior, every town has a history, and not everything exists for the player” developers. That put them in a unique spot in the industry. That level of simulation let players believe in and explore their worlds in a way most games simply don’t allow. It’s why Bethesda games get such oddly specific critiques: where do the NPCs sleep, what do they eat, where do they go to the bathroom?
This doesn’t matter to everyone, so I imagine a lot of these complaints sound trivial or even insane from the outside. But for the people it does matter to, Bethesda was one of the few developers filling that niche.
So when I see complaints about seamless travel, or shopkeepers not caring that you’re standing behind their counter, or nobody reacting when you fire a gun in a crowd, or so many raider bases on an isolated planet with nobody to raid, I don’t see an excuse to not like the game. I see players struggling to express their disappointment that the game feels artificial and gamified, and that it failed to capture the soul of a Bethesda game.


I get what you mean, but it makes sense in context.
Immersive “Open World” Sims with ground and space exploration have a hard time tying the two together. Often they feel like two separate games, and one of them often feels like the “second class (star) citizen”. Not that making them seamlessly connected actually makes the two mechanically complimentary, but separating them by a loading screen makes this dichotomy all the more obvious. Starfield was no exception.
To exacerbate this, Bethesda made its brand the “You see that mountain? You can climb it!” game makers (Which, to be honest, I think they started to lose the plot on what made their games good when they started saying this. But that’s a different conversation.). So when they made their foray into space exploration, they really had no one else to blame when folks expected a similar “You see that planet? You can fly to it!” design philosophy.
Though I think it would have been overlooked if the game was… good? At the very least, if it was way less bloated with low effort copy pasted fluff content. Complaints like this only tend to become so focal when people have more disappointment to express than meaningful critique can adequately convey.
Florida Man kicked out of public garden after stealing apples from a protected tree.
Tells police his wife convinced him to do it after she had “taken bad advice from a snake”.


You have (at least) a few fans too.
I have a deep respect and appreciation of your posts and commentary. We sure as shit don’t have enough people like you.


Don’t fully agree. While rapist are so commonly men (to the point of it being functionally ubiquitous), not all men are rapists or sexual assaulters. The rates of men who are is also not uniform globally (just compare Uttar Pradesh to… basically anywhere). And while correlation isn’t causation, it still heavily implies that there is a cultural element that can be curbed (i.e. Rape Culture).
While I don’t have the hard answers to fix the problem, I don’t really accept the easy “it can’t be done” answers here either. We can change the culture, and that has to start by not hand waving away key statistics like “rapists are predominantly men.”
“Sorry, feeling a bit overwhelmed right now. Just need some time to myself.”
Say it in a friendly tone that doesn’t invite undue concern, and you’re golden.
Took my brain 0 seconds to auto correct though. Hardly seems worth the effort.


Just need to know how to read between the lines.
The challenge here is… to destroy the country… to permanently disempower you… and Republicans… are trying.”
No, for sure. It was clear what you meant.
Apologies if my comment came across as “um ackshually”. I just meant it in a “TIL/interestingly enough” sorta way.
So this post got me curious to the etymology of the term. And from what I’ve been able to discern, the term seems to in fact originate from gaming.
I mean, obviously the tactic pre-dates recorded history. But ‘kiting’, in regards to the term itself, doesn’t seem to be a thing before video games.


I’ve never had too hard time surviving
Especially compared to places where food is not affordable or medical care is not available.
Friend, if food and medical care have always been available and affordable for you, then I truly hope your good luck holds out.


That’s strange… I don’t feel lucky


As someone who is still in the waitlist for the Steam Machine, and Steam Controller…
For some, they still weren’t like… they just are…


I mean the Revolution can have a little firebombing walmart.
As a treat.
Wine enjoyers be like ‘it’s not an emulator’.