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SoleInvictus

@ SoleInvictus @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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  • I want to live in the world NY Post lives in!

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  • like throwing around some ancient language and random symbols should make the people afraid or something

    In my experience, it still does for conservatives and many born before the mid seventies. None of them can tell you why or even what any of the terms or symbols mean, but they've been told all their lives those things are bad and have never stopped to wonder why.

  • Does anyone actually have home safes or does everyone just use bank safes? (or do you hide stuff under your mattress?)

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  • Keep in mind that many "fireproof" safes misrepresent their capabilities and the fireproofing itself can severely damage or destroy safe contents in a fire.

    Tl;dr: the contents slow cook and soak in a mixture of water and whatever else was present for hours to days. Depending on the severity and duration of the fire, plastics will melt, metals will tarnish, and unprotected paper, wood, and similar contents will be destroyed.

    Most more affordable safes are fireproofed via a layer of drywall material. Drywall is composed of gypsum, otherwise known as calcium sulfate dihydrate: CaSO4·2H2O .

    The fireproofing doesn't come from any direct insulating properties but the hydration of the gypsum. When exposed to enough heat, the water bound to calcium sulfate begins to unbind and boil out. The interior of the safe will remain at 100°C or less as the external heat energy from the fire is absorbed by this dehydration/phase change process, releasing water as steam.

    This turns your safe into a big steamer/(low) pressure cooker. The safe boils during the fire, then sits and "cooks" for hours afterwards as the area cools down. The safe keypad will be inoperative, so you'll be reliant on the backup key working. If that mechanism is damaged, the manufacturer or a locksmith will need to open it. No matter what, the contents will remain in a hot, damp environment for hours to days.

  • Some People Can’t See Mental Images. The Consequences Are Profound

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  • Same! I grew up playing a lot of dungeon crawlers, so I'm pretty good at making mental maps. I tried explaining to an ex how I could envision a rough map of wherever I might be and he was completely baffled.

  • Zohran Mamdani wins NYC mayor's race, capping a stunning ascent

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  • They do: you! Run for local office and help infuse some vitality back into a tired, corrupt political system.

  • Whats your hot take on something that doesnt matter at all?

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  • Just the diet gummies.

  • Is Kagi search engine worth it?

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  • Dammit, my fence picket didn't even get cold!

  • Is Kagi search engine worth it?

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  • Appreciate you linking in your blog post. I've been on the fence about Kagi and you bring up a lot of good points informed by sources I'm unlikely to delve into.

  • ‘It’s risky business emotionally’: the social shift towards open relationships

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  • As someone who used to be poly, I agree 100%. Poly people can be emotional wrecking balls if they don't put in the work to build and maintain healthy relationships. Poly drama story time!

    The worst of my poly primaries believed she had infinite love to give, so she saw no reason to limit herself to one partner. While her love might have been truly infinite, her time, emotional capacity, and sense of commitment were not. She frequently overextended herself with multiple new interests and had her desire for attention and validation fulfilled far beyond reason without the capacity or apparent intent to fully reciprocate.

    Her interests were typically less socially adept men who didn't have much luck in dating, so they threw themselves at a charming, intelligent woman showing intense emotional and sexual interest, unaware or uncaring that she hid her flaws with equal intensity. (She had this thing about fucking virgins: hey, I don't kink shame!) I saw her break a few hearts when they realized they weren't going to "win" her for themselves, but only toward the end discovered that this wasn't due to self-delusion as she claimed, but instead her failure to clearly communicate firm expectations and boundaries. Sometimes that they weren't communicated at all. I also learned after the split that there were far more men than I knew about. Uggggh.

    Eventually she began breaking the rules we established for our relationship and chose to leave me when I insisted we close the relationship to work on ourselves, as we promised to do when we first became committed. She opted instead to begin fucking two mutual friends, one of which immediately ghosted me while the other, a newly former virgin, soon called off our friendship so he could, in his own words, "have a clear conscience while pursuing a lasting relationship with her". I'm sure I don't have to explain how successful he was.

  • 28-pound electric motor delivers 1000 horsepower

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  • I wish! The tire shop said that the last set was damaged by excessive acceleration, so they wouldn't honor the warranty. I can't argue - our EV has over 600 horsepower and almost 900 lb-ft of torque, so my partner is just destroying those poor tires.

  • 28-pound electric motor delivers 1000 horsepower

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  • Easy! Just make this:

    With this:

  • 28-pound electric motor delivers 1000 horsepower

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  • Yep, I have an EV and the way my partner drove it just eats through tires. We're talking about $1.5k, 50k mile warranty tires being replaced at 20-25k because someone liked to pretend they're a fucking astronaut on launch day.

    Not bitter.

  • Citrus australasica (finger lime, aka "caviar lime")

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  • I have a family member that grows these. They're really good! They have a citrus taste much like a lime, but they're not as acidic so you can just eat them straight off the plant.

  • TIL: Only four countries in the world have no government mandated minimum paid vacation or paid public holidays: Palau, Micronesia, Nauru, and the United States of America.

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  • How it should work if companies cared about anything beyond the next quarterly report.

    After my former employer's economic forecast did an abrupt sharp downturn, I went from being a highly desirable employee to extremely undesirable in the space of less than a week. Add to that a performance limiting on-the-job injury and being the highest paid person in my department.

    Guess who was terminated the day before their stock and annual bonus was to be awarded.

  • You guys ready for NO Nut November?

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  • I nut thrice each day for the poor souls who go without.

  • I'm (31m) having trouble communicating things that are bothering me to my partner (30F) because her insecurities and anxiety keep me having to assure her.

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  • +1 for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. It is a massive help in learning to communicate better with others AND better figure out my feelings and needs.

  • U.S. Senate votes 50-46 to nullify Trump tariffs on Canada, with four Republicans crossing aisle

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  • And make "war in everything but name" considered war too.

  • I'm (31m) having trouble communicating things that are bothering me to my partner (30F) because her insecurities and anxiety keep me having to assure her.

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  • I am currently tackling the result of over 10 years of my partner doing similarly. It's absolute hell and the unhealthy coping mechanisms I developed to tolerate their abuse had made me into someone I no longer like.

    If I could go back in time, I'd do one of two things:

    Present a clear and detailed list of your non-negotiable relationship needs, including topics like conflict resolution, personal accountability, and healthy communication. The needs are non-negotiable but you can and should work together to determine how they are met.

    If that needs list and proposal to collaborate are not completely and enthusiastically accepted, run. Run far and fast. This person does not care for your needs and feelings, so it WILL get worse.

  • Where does it hit you?

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  • Same! It always seemed like my somatic symptoms popped up out of nowhere. After a fair bit of mindfulness meditation, I discovered I simply wasn't feeling them until my body was practically screaming at me.

  • People who have/had abusive siblings, would you wish to have been the only child?

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  • Fuck yeah. I only have one sibling and they're a narcissist.