I also installed tuwunnel after conduwuit death. Moved to Continuwuity because of the community vs corporate sponsorship.
I don't keep an eye on who is ahead, but I want to be sure I don't have to migrate in the future so I don't care for development speed, rather continued support and what if tuwunnel company money runs out?
Yes both element and elementx and actually any matrix client. That's the beauty of having standards
But its a pain because all clients from matrix. Org will push you to matrix. Org and need manual taps&clicks to select a different server when you sign up the first time. A bit annoying IMHO and maybe even fraudolent.
I share your concerns with the matrix organization. Most of the other concerns on that article don't apply to a private instance with only just less than a handful of users who anyway live together or share more than an online existence.
Conduit has been dead in development for years now. Conduwuit was the successor, then some drama got it shut down and reborn (new maintainers) as Continuwuity.
Conduit saw no up grades in years IIRC and its basically abandoned I guess.
I like the analogy...
But at the end of the day better to have something that starts shitty but can be improved over time rather than nothing.
If it stays shitty, then it's just shit and won't go anywhere.