You mentioned constant re-pairing with your Xbox controller, but I don't find that to be an issue since the Xbox controller (Elite 2, I think) can retain 2 paired devices. In my case, it was my Xbox and a Galaxy tablet, then my Xbox and a Steam Deck.
If your Xbox controller is a newer version, double-tapping the Bluetooth pairing button on the controller should switch between devices. That should lessen your frustration, I think.
Doesn't meet your other requirements, but since you already have one, maybe it will give you some breathing room until the Steam controller comes out, which will likely hit all your spots.
Time to go to the thrift shop, buy some cheap digital camera, load the SD card with the worst malware, ransomware, and hacker viruses you can find, and then half-heartedly struggle before relinquishing your camera to the idiot ICE Gestapo ghoul.
Had you not been participating in the activities, they would likely not have any attention placed on them.
In the same way you are trying to initiate changes by putting pressure on those who you feel are doing wrong, those who feel that YOU are in the wrong will put pressure on you. Harassing your relatives not only puts pressure on you from your relatives, but is also designed to break you emotionally by watching the people you care about be hurt.
I'm not saying it's right, but it's the way things work.
Your traffic is measured by them and used to increase their numbers when making ad sales. Regardless of whether you have given them any money and blocked all their ads, you still count as traffic to the site, and that is what they are selling to advertisers.
So, yes, even though you don't intentionally give them any money, the majority of the money they make is from the valuation placed on traffic to the site, which you continue contributing to.
I first played Deathloop on Gamepass and loved it even though I rushed through it (one of the negatives of GP is rushing through games so you "get your money's worth"). When it came back to GP, I convinced my friend to play it, and ended up going through it a second time (though, again, hurriedly). I bought it on Steam at full price and gave it to my kid's S.O. as a gift, but didn't start playing.... Until a couple weeks later when I canceled Gamepass and picked it up on Steam for $8. Been going through it for the 3rd time now, taking my time and exploring it all. Still enjoying it immensely, and still getting sucked into the lore!
Bill Gates may be a cheating pedophile, and Microsoft is definitely a shitty company, but the two split a dozen years ago.