Not good at receiving criticism in the moment, kind of defensive. I can hear it but cannot immediately say "yeah you are right", it feels more like insult than help. Some of this is leftover hangups from my ex, who was quite cutting, mean about it. But some just my own immature tendencies. I have pretty much learned not to react and wait until I can think about it more objectively.
A house, a car, and enough to pay all the bills and still have some lifestyle, without the terror of knowing you are one job loss away from homelessness and starvation. Able to retire for 25 years before dying.
I think for us (a family not a single person) that really is a million in the bank and 200k per year. We don't have that, nor do many others.
As a cap? I think nobody needs to accumulate more than 5 million in cash and other assets. Less if you live somewhere with reasonable pension and healthcare.
This looks like a style thing, not anything ugly about the person. Haircut, wardrobe. Not even wardrobe, never mind. Better haircut and glasses, maybe teeth? Guy has good bone structure in his face and looks built ok.
I worked with a lady whose married name was Xu, she'd kept it when she divorced him. She was Laotian. (Really cool lady, grew up in refugee camp, married high roller Chinese guy, got t educated, when they divorced she moved to the US and was successful on her own). One day i forwarded her an email from a vendor, his name long and unpronounceable, and she looked at it and said, oh! That is the same as my maiden name! I could see why she kept the last name of the Chinese husband :)
We have a road that goes under a bridge so that you can make a right to go east on a 4 lane road. People would sit at that corner waiting to go left and it caused massive backups. (Which made no sense, why go under the bridge then? Use a different corner and make a right to go west!). We asked the city to make it right turn only - they interpreted it slightly differently and thought we meant people were heading straight the wrong way up a one way, rather than turning to that corner, came and put a temporary sign. I went with one of my kids, wearing safety vests, and moved the temporary sign to the corner we wanted it at.
Later the city came and put the permanent sign where we had it, and ALSO changed the paint on the road to make it one way right at the corner and disallowed left turns INTO that corner, they just broadly said no left. Which is good. Nobody should be stopping at the bottom of a bridge to wait to make a left turn.
It's not like NOBODY does the left anymore, but there are not backups now because nobody is going to sit there waiting to go left, they get honked at.
I have a 6 week wishlist for most smaller stuff, to avoid impulse buying. More like 6 months for something like a computer and 6 years for something like a home renovation.
I think if you've waited so long and still want the same thing it's safe to say you really want it and will enjoy it.
Oh - another thing you can do - we have a savings account but also a "goal savings account" that is for things like this, specific items that cost sort of a lot (or a whole lot, for years now it's been saving for a car for my husband.) Save the money away from the regular accounts so it is your extra money.
I was doing payroll recently for my work, and came across Harsh Harsh. I had to ask our HR lady, really? His last name was Harsh and his parents named him Harsh?
Well, no. She said his name was simply Harsh but our system required a last name so she repeated it.
Haven't been fat but have been hugely pregnant and had to lose weight and even though people say you can't outrun a diet, exercise has been the only thing that's really made a difference for me. The more I exercise the less I weigh, the "out" part of calories in, calories out makes the bigger difference for my body.
Borns made some of the best indie pop on the radio, got in trouble for grooming, disappeared. One of the most heartbreaking losses musically for us. Then years later tried a comeback but seems to be an unrepentant whiny bitch now, the song he released was so bad. It seems to have broken him.
I still think his early stuff is so good.
Ender's Game is a great book, and I did keep my Neil Gaiman books, the ones I already have.
I think in general (obviously there are exceptions) broken people make the greatest art, it's hard to have that drive when you don't have some sadness inside you, dissatisfaction, some missing part you are trying to fill. And with old guys (not Garrett Borns) they did grow up in a different time - I don't think that excuses them, but it does explain it. My mom thought Jerry Lee Lewis marrying his 14 year old cousin was scandalous but wouldn't have thought it criminal or really wrong.
We do exactly the same as you, with one difference. For bath towels we have 2 sets and alternate them, so as we wash one set, we put out the others and put away the washed ones when done. Only replace if they fall apart, I don't know how long that takes, maybe 15-20 years? So maybe yes with one set 8-10 years sounds about right?
Kitchen towels wear out faster, harder use and hot water wash with bleach. Bath towels last a long time, cold water wash then dryer.
I am bigger around than a short lady, but proportionally more taller than wider, elongated. I am not sure why it works that way.
What I wonder about more is fat people. My shape is defined by my skeleton, I'm not that skinny but like, my ribcage and hipbones, shoulders are my frame, the outer edges of my body shape. If someone is so fat, how does their body extend far past the bones, what holds it up? Or do they have a wider skeleton?
I had a boyfriend in England, he was Scottish (town southwest of Glasgow) but had lived in Canada, so the accent was muted. I am from Florida with parents from Louisiana so southern but not Southern l. I liked when he got drunk because he got more Scottish and he liked when I got drunk because I sounded Southern.
Horror novels bring me down. Horror games too scary for me to deal with, the movies are either dumb or too, well, horrifying.
But short story horror is phenomenal. I have read every edition of "The Year's Best Fantasy and Horror" and holy crap short horror stories are some of the best writing I have ever encountered, ever.
I am never sure how time works at all. It's possible that everything we experience is just rolling out from some original cause, everything happening is just an effect caused by what came before, essentially has already happened, in a way, you cannot change anything.
If that is true, then yes. You are an effect caused by your parents' actions and they in turn were an effect of their own parents' actions, on and on back to the origin of the universe.
If it works the way it feels to us, and we are choosing actions, then no. You can modify yourself and choose to do things not caused by your upbringing, there is not just one path already laid out before you. If that's the case, I'd think just asking the question at all is a good start, deciding what you want to keep from your past and what you want to change, living intentionally, mindfully.
I do think upbringing plays a big part in shaping a person and have often said that if a baby was dropped on my doorstep I do think it would end up being like my other kids, more than different. Especially at this point when all those other kids are adults and would also be influential.
Yes. I tried mangoes every year untill I liked them, avocado too. Raw tomatoes I keep trying, can tolerate, can't like.
Last year I made a deal with my coworker, who is a wine person but such a picky eater he went to Japan and just ate chicken tenders, same in the middle east. I told him if he honestly tried eating new foods I would try wines. He found some foods he likes, and I found I like dry elegant white wines (nothing sweet) and most wines made of Nebbiolo grapes, like instead of just sort of holding my nose and tolerating them, I can affirmatively like them .
I truly believe a wide palate is a positive quality, I gave my kids lots of different tasting foods when they were little and that helped them to enjoy more flavors. I think technically I'm picky (have strong likes and dislikes) but like so, so many foods it's not limiting. And yes, I do try to like some of the foods I don't.
Not good at receiving criticism in the moment, kind of defensive. I can hear it but cannot immediately say "yeah you are right", it feels more like insult than help. Some of this is leftover hangups from my ex, who was quite cutting, mean about it. But some just my own immature tendencies. I have pretty much learned not to react and wait until I can think about it more objectively.