I never understood why Fermi should be a paradox.
Space is mind-bogglingly big. Insanely huge. And almost everything is empty. Primitive life (bacteria, fungus,...) might evolve on every other planet, but even mammal like life is probably not that common. Maybe 1 in 10k solar systems has them?
And now my sad hypothesis: FTL drives are simply not possible.
Also, did I mention space is huge? Sending radio signals to a planet 10k ly away is very non trivial. Unless they point a huge dish exactly at us and we point a huce dish exactly to them, we won't hear each other.
The idea that extraterrestials will watch our TV in 100k years is absurd. (Sorry Lrrrr)
So grandpa had a computer problem. Turns out he installed one of the early locker trojans. He: "It's all my own fault." Family: "no grandpa, that were some ugly hackers". So i removed the virus and checked the computer. Turns out it was his fault. He tried to watch "russian removed porn" and installed the virus in that process. He was like 85 and needed help washing himself. So IDK what his intentions were... The worst part: I had to keep a straight face and confirm the "hackers" therory. That secret will die with me. And now you.