You don't want too many cooks in the kitchen, as they say. These jokers aren't making soup though and there's no such idiom about crooks in the kitchen.
Relationships are a give and take. If the person who is your friend thinks that they are giving more than taking, then they will get upset. They just want to be thought of and it's not as important what you give back, as long as you do something. You don't feel obligated, but you are. Just fake it till you make it if you don't have the empathy to naturally do things for others.
You don't want too many cooks in the kitchen, as they say. These jokers aren't making soup though and there's no such idiom about crooks in the kitchen.