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  • My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?

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  • Hey, that person isn't a good role model and did something absolutly deplorable. I want you to understand that this not a way to act and that these actions are very hurtful and demeaning to me and our family.

    These actions now do have consequences, which is why I am divorcing him. I hope you will understand that I can not reconcile the betrayal and that actions like this will always hurt people and have harsh consequences.

    But I understand that this person is your father and your relationship to him is important to you so I will try to make peace with that, in order to not hurt you any more than has already been done.

    Seems also like a reasonable thing to say to your child. You know, not instrumentalizing your child to hurt the partner that betrayed you. Seems selfish to me, but what do I know.

    But I should've know better than to expect healthy nuance from an online discussion anyways.

    Edit: I got a little combative there, which was unnecessary

  • My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?

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  • It's not that hard of a concept to understand. In the described scenario both did something wrong, which is why I said, that both are partially wrong (regarding the described problem).

    He is wrong for betraying his family and she is wrong for trying to pull the child into their dispute by making them choose sides.

    So OP posted this, not only because his dad cheated and not only because his mom is trying to make them choose, but because of BOTH those things happening.

  • Zahlen künftig in gesetzliche Rente ein: Dänemark streicht seinen Politikern die üppigen Pensionsansprüche

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  • Hmn, funktioniert ja auch blendend. Zusätzlich zur staatlichen Pension den alternden Arsch noch etwas im Vorstand von der Bahn oder so parken, um noch das ein oder andere Milliönchen auf das Privatkonto wandern zu lassen.

  • My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?

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  • Honestly from what we know, which is next to nothing, both parents here are in the wrong partially.

    But as someone else already said here, humans and their relationships are super complex and from just a little paragraph we shouldn't judge either of them too harshly.

    For example, my mom cheated on my dad, but we children stayed with her and understood her actions, because our dad was an emotionally unavailable alcoholic at that time. He turned himself around in the years following, becoming a better father. Both my parents made grave mistakes during their marriage and both shared blame in the breaking apart of our family and both, over time, accepted their part in it.

    Life is not that easy, for none of us, everybody makes mistakes.

  • My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?

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  • Maybe read your own point 2 again...

  • ich_iel

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  • Shrimpposters begone!

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  • Beat me to it, same on my end.

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  • Yeah, and we didn’t start the fire.

    It's Springsteen, not Billy Joel.

  • "Immer schlechte Laune": Söder schießt im Streit um Bayern-Meisterfeier gegen Linke

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  • Hört der Mann sich eigentlich selber zu oder schaut der nur ab und zu mal rein wie es gerade so läuft?

    Ich meine, der FC Bayern steht für Erfolg, Reichtum, Klasse, Substanz

    Das ist genau der Punkt lieber Maggus.

  • Germany bans far-right 'Kingdom of Germany' group

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  • TLDR: Hard disagree on almost anything you just said

    Well historically it is not a terrible system, it is very stable and tends to not self implode regularly like democracy does.

    Yeah if you ignore for example wars of succession, because of incestuous family ties, arbitrary rule, repression and exploitation of its citizens, one could call it stable... Although the escalation and tyranny unfortunately are baked into the system.

    if you look at monarchies historically they tried very very hard to avoid having rebellions in their hands and usually worked in the interest of the nation, as the interest of the nation was the interest of the monarch.

    Have you ever read history books? Sure some rulers may have had that kind of view but theres also plenty of megalomaniacal, terribly violent and unjust rulers in those big ol books of history. And since it is an imposed rule of tyranny there's really only violence to get rid of an unjust ruler, you know a neat thing about democracy? Violence is the last resort to getting rid of rulers because we can vote! Crazy right?

    So if a democratic nation seems headed towards anti democratic rule, it would seem to me that a better goal would be to install a monarchy instead of a fascist.

    In that case- what's the fucking difference? Oh, to avoid an autocracy let's install an autocracy with cherry flavor... Great?

  • A German Experiment Proved That Simple Concrete Spheres Make Fantastic Batteries. Now, California Plans To Submerge A 9-Meter Diameter Sphere In The Ocean And Is Already Planning Versions Of 30 Meters

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  • I don’t know what depths we’re talking about here,

    From the article:

    The idea is relatively simple: hollow concrete spheres are installed at a depth of several hundred metres.

  • me_irl

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  • No, he was a good person.

  • me_irl

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  • I've met plenty of people where this would be an appropriate response. Not because they're boring but because they're trashy humans, I am not obligated to listen to someone's hateful shit, I can just get up and leave.

  • Verfassungsschutz setzt Einstufung der AfD als "gesichert rechtsextremistisch" vorerst aus

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  • Interessant wird das ganze dann im Zusammenhang mit Art 20 Absatz 4 des GG

    (4) Gegen jeden, der es unternimmt, diese Ordnung zu beseitigen, haben alle Deutschen das Recht zum Widerstand, wenn andere Abhilfe nicht möglich ist.

    Nach gängiger Rechtsauffassung greift dieses Widerstandsrecht dann, wenn strukturelle Angriffe auf das GG stattfinden und "wenn andere Abhilfe nicht möglich ist."

    Wenn also Grundrechte strukturell angegriffen und unwirksam gemacht werden und demokratische mittel ausgeschöpft wurden, könnte eine solche Anerkennung der Geheimdienste und Gerichte durchaus einer zivilen Widerstandskultur den Rücken stärken, solange die Gerichte bis dahin nicht ihre Unabhängigkeit verloren haben.

  • Verfassungsschutz setzt Einstufung der AfD als "gesichert rechtsextremistisch" vorerst aus

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  • Und da das Gericht in köln schon bei der Einstufung als Verdachtsfall relativ zügig (für deutsche Bürokratie) eine positive Entscheidung gefällt hatte bin ich da auch relativ hoffnungsvoll.

  • fososaur

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  • I'm still holding on strong to my rage face meme Stock, I'm sure they'll make a comeback soon. Anytime now..

  • Merz will noch heute erneut antreten

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  • Fuck grass. Here's my overseeding mixture to turn my lawn over.

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  • Absolutely important to dig into it a bit, which is why I contacted the local environmental group about it, who happily provided a list of suitable plants I used as a reference point.

    It's also mostly places like those little traffic islands or empty estates. I try to avoid doing it around the canals in my city since they actually are a differing habitat.

    Also I only do it on public property or non developed lots, if you want to have a golf course lawn in your garden suit yourself, I will not touch it, but I will silently judge you ;)

    But your point is very valid, do some research, reach out to environmental groups and educate yourself on the differing habitats in your area.

  • ich🕯️iel

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  • Schlagzeile aus der Tagesschau heute morgen:

    🔵 CDU-Chef Merz stellt sich heute im Bundestag für das Amt des Bundeskanzlers zu Wahl. Da Union und SPD zusammen die Mehrheit der Stimmen haben,** gilt die Wahl im ersten Wahlgang als sicher**. Bis zum Nachmittag sollen dann Merz und seine Bundesminister:innen von Bundespräsident Steinmeier ernannt und im Bundestag vereidigt werden. https://tsde.li/merz-kanzlerwahl

    Hihi > gilt die Wahl im ersten Wahlgang als sicher