I remind myself that if a person doesn't engage in direct communication regarding their feelings being hurt by my (un/intentional) words, then they aren't currently in a place (mental/physical health) where they can engage in building relationships.
I made no mistake, I inherited HSV1-oral via proximity to relatives.
I in no way approve of my relatives nonchalant approach to communicable diseases. I am very adamant that I must prevent contagion, even to my own detriment... black and white thinking, classic.
Any information about experiences related to this, information applicable to this, is and will be appreciated, please.
Oh btw, that absurd example
shaming you for having cancer
well... uh... if I feel particularly upset, then I mentally shout at anything, including myself.
Imagine giving up a bus seat to a chemotherapy patient, I will be polite - no doubt, though iternally I will feel agonising hatred over their existance. "If they had died by suicide, I wouldn't have to suffer." and variations of such thinking until I get less upset.
How many drugs does it take to outrun a scent-seeking zombie?