Reading your response I believe there is a misunderstanding between us and it's easily possible I didn't write my last comment clearly or I'm just misunderstanding some of yours. Keep in mind, the focus of my first comment is on the sarcastic analogy in the response to the original "write a list" comment. I did a little bit of defending of that list statement a couple times already but I don't want to keep defending their comment for them since I didn't write it and it's not my place to speak for them. They've responded here already and have been kinder than I have.
That said, I still believe the analogies used don't line up with what was commented. I think a more accurate thing would be if the original comment said something like "Just do your tasks!". That doesn't tell you how to tackle anything, it gives no actionable advice. Saying to someone in a wheelchair "Just stand up!" is the same to me - It's the end goal, just saying to DO the end goal is not real advice and is often deserving of a sarcastic "why didn't I think of that" reply, since that's exactly what they're trying to do. I think I should have used that example instead of "keep it in your head" in my other reply, I think it's more clear what I meant that way.
Have you ever considered that there are actually cases where people in wheelchairs regain partial motor function in their legs by going through rigorous physical therapy and training the muscles to bear weight again?
Yes, but that's not "just standing up". I think if you equate rigorous physical therapy to seeing a therapist and training the muscles to bear weight to some other proven tool for people with ADHD that would be a fair analogy and probably ok advice in both cases.
I know these situations are much larger in magnitude, but can’t you see how a solution for some is not a good suggestion for others? If I told someone with dyslexia to read more, odds are they will be irritated, even if it might be their solution.
Of course, I agree with you. Now I know nothing about treating dyslexia, so I'll go with what you said that a good portion of children with dyslexia grow out of it through constant reading. If that's the case, is it not fair to suggest that a child should try to read more? Not the "just read the paper!" idea, but give some tip about reading? In that case, is it really appropriate to poo-poo real techniques with a sarcastic response because it didn't work for you specifically?
I get that the hostile responses feel bad… But wouldn’t you also feel bad if you were struggling with anxiety and someone told you to “just relax”?
Just to be clear, I'm not hurt by the response. I saw what I read as an overly sarcastic reply to a reasonably good-willed comment and so in my response I was snarky. In doing so, I know that if I don't communicate my point well, if I'm plain wrong, if the general community disagrees with me, or hell if they just don't like my attitude, that it can result in that type of response and so I was saying I "reasonably expected" it. I'm also fine with it and it was really that person I replied to defending themselves anyway.
Like I said in the last comment, I read the original bit as a half throwaway "Keep your head up" type comment. When someone's sick, people tell them to feel better. If the response to "feel better" is "WELL GOLLY, WHY DID I NOT THINK OF THAT?! MY LIFE IS CHANGED" what do you expect people to say after? Trust me, I empathize with the struggles everyone goes through. People have given me advice that did fuck all, and I've given the same, nobody has all the answers.
I think not pursuing a position (or doing a lot of other things) due to your own values is always the right choice assuming no one else's health and well-being is on the line. In this case I distinctly support your decision (I mean if anyone would it's the people on Lemmy). I cannot stand that in every situation where an individual has even the slightest amount of desperation, like needing income to feed you and your family, a company will always, without fail, take advantage of it to save themselves the slightest bit of money. I'm not even inherently against the idea of digital pre-screening type processes like this assessment, but because the job seeker is usually in need of income, they will jump through these ridiculous hoops to make it work and companies know it so they put no effort into making it an easy process.
These are real human beings who, if they ever need to find a job again, will have to go through these SAME things and no one (with the power to do so) ever stops and thinks.. man this sucks.. we should make this easier.