I joined reddit some time around 2015 and it was not exactly the most welcoming experience with the type of content you see by default either.
I think the main issue here is that Reddit in 2015 didn't have to compete with modern Reddit. Nowadays, you create a Reddit account, you get a few subs suggested depending on your interest and your geodefault, so that's enough to give you a first tailored experience without being first drown into All content.
We can't really replicate that on Lemmy (hopefully one day we will), so the best we have is what I listed above: tell people they should focus on laid back communities.
!buyeuropean@feddit.uk - The place to discuss the goods and services made by hard working europeans
I use alts as a way to have different feeds, feddit.org is the one for meta Lemmy discussions, lemmy.cafe for hobby topics, lemmy.zip for tech.
I also have moderation alts that I use to avoid being too obvious as a mod. I think it generally gives a bad vibe when the single and only poster in a community is also the mod, and also it shows me as a normal user when discussing with people.
I have my main alt there. It's pretty good, but there was an issue with the thumbnails that got resolved a few days ago. Also, the instance is much smaller than the two others (64 users per month), so I sometimes have to subscribe to some medium-size communities before nobody did before. Federation can get a bit clunky at times too, and I have to pull myself some posts or comments to "unclog the pipes".
Discuss.online has 140 users per month, sopuli 496
!buyeuropean@feddit.uk - The place to discuss the goods and services made by hard working europeans
Lemm.ee or sopuli.xyz could have worked too (feddit.org is more German-speaking, and Jlai.lu French speaking). But I agree, feddit.uk is also a good choice.
As you can guess, I'm well aware 😅 Thankfully most of the communities I mod are on Lemm.ee, so I only have to check that alt regularly, but that's indeed an issue.
It was the first comment of the thread, to encourage discussion. If there's something Lemmy could use more of, it's a bit more discussion rather than fewer comments
Lemmy.world is known to be slow in some areas due to its size