Kanboard
I got the ADHD. I got different shit going all the time.
Kanboard let's me throw together a project and very quickly add the tasks I know I'll need. I self host an instance for my wife and I, mostly for my chores, but its our honeydo list as well.
Seems like you'd have different boards for family stuff and PhD stuff.
White folks stepping on brown folks isnt really a different topic, but I dont really disagree with you here either.