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Avalokitesha

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  • How common is it to need to know the absolute inner workings of something in order to do it?

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  • For me the commitment part was the issue. I'm still working on figuring out how to trick my brain into cooperating with commitments. Having a team that was looking forward to my suggestions and ready to rely on it ended up being the one thing that worked. But this is obviously not easily replicable.

  • How common is it to need to know the absolute inner workings of something in order to do it?

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  • I tried that several times but it never worked out for various reasons. For me I really started growing once I was working and had a team that was happy I wanted to learn more and answer my questions.

  • How common is it to need to know the absolute inner workings of something in order to do it?

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  • I'm like that and one of my friends as well. We're both not diagnosed but strongly suspecting AD(H)D, and I'm also diagnosed with autism.

    I can't count the times I started trying to learn programming and ended up quitting for that very reason - but every time I did I knew a little bit more. So I just tried to learn my way and next time I wouldn't need to look up asuch and got a little farther. But I also have the luck of having programmer friends who don't mind trying to answer my sometimes very unusual questions, and over the several attempts I've learned enough to be able to work in test automation.

    If you have patient and encouraging people around you you'll eventually get there :) don't go for ui at first, look for console programs so you can get to things like conditions and loops quickly. That's where the meat is for me.

  • At school were you on the "gifted and pleasure to teach" end or "would do well if applied self and stopped getting distracted"?

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  • Get a smiley for driving too fast

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  • The thing alternates between showing the measured speed and a reaction to it - smiley if it's acceptable, something else if it's not. I don't remember RN what the bad reaction is (I'm not a driver) but in a 30 zone a smiley at 42 is misconfigured.

  • Why do I relate so much with this community despite having OCD?

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  • In Germany? :o

    As a diagnosed German I can tell you not much changes, there's virtually no therapy for adult autistics. I understand why your doc said that.

    Though there was one large benefit for me and it's that after we applied for disability the Arbeitsamt got much more lenient with me and was actually useful in helping me find a job.

    In the end, if you can't let go, seek the diagnosis, if not, take from autistic communities whatever little tricks help you, discard what doesn't and call it a day. Much less trouble :)

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  • There's one thing in your post that I haven't seen you mention yet it's all over the place: depression.

    I don't know anything about you but this post, and I'm not a professional, but from very painful personal experience I'm almost sure you're severely depressed, maybe even to the point where you need hospitalization.

    Depression fucks with your head. It makes you not-do things you're looking forward to and you don't understand why. It makes you unable to see anything positive. You cannot get out of it without help after a certain point, and you cannot trust your own thoughts anymore.

    These days, after years, I'm better. For me it's never going completely away, but I recognize patterns, I know how to break the spiraling (and most importantly, no one shames me for how I'm doing it anymore) and I can say " this sounds like depression speaking, let me do something else and return to this thought tmr and see how I feel."

    But it took years of therapy and several months of hospitalization. If you're at the point where your outbreaks scare your family, maybe it's time to look into that.

    Another thing: depression in men is critically underdiagnosed, because most docs look for physical reasons if a man comes to them with symptoms of depression. If you haven't been diagnosed yet, it may be that it didn't occur to your doc, maybe because you're masking well or because he's just not used to seeing men with depression.

    However you go on, I wish you all the best. I hope that you can find a way, with or without meds, to live in peace with your brain.

  • Rescues Tucker and Mike

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  • That smug face.

  • Jumblie is a challenging browser-based open-source puzzle game to guess the four words of the day

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  • I love it, Ty!

  • TIL of Waldorf schools

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  • I'm an outsider "looking in", so to say, as in I met quite a few people attending a local Waldorf-School near where I went to school. I always felt a lot of them were a little out of touch with the real world, not quite prepared for how things are outside. Very sheltered and... For lack of a better word, dreamy? It felt like they hadn't learned some of the fundamentals of science but focused a lot on soft stuff instead.

    It's hard to put into words since those are impressions of a pretty judgemental teenager x) and stored in a different language than English since my english back then was still pretty bad.

    But their education seemed to lack real preparation for anything but social sciences. It's been a while, though, maybe it has changed by now.

  • Best constant in all of iOS!

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  • I think Chinese and Korean culture share this concept, and I wouldn't be surprised if there were more Asian languages who did. Since a daughter joins her husband's family upon marriage, their children are considered belonging to the other family. I recently learner that apparently there's a saying in Korean that daughters always leave things at their mother's house when they get married so they have a reason to come back despite having left the family.

  • I am unable to visit Japan.

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  • If you want to convince people it's up to you to bring the evidence. I'm not doing your work for you.

    Besides, there have been studies shoing that autistics among themselves don't have the same communication breakdown as they do when interacting with neurotypicals. So if Japan was truly an autistic culture it should be easier for autistic people, but it's not.

    Besides, I'm very curious to see how you are going to apply diagnostic criteria for a neurodivergence to a culture. Like, how do you even begin? Is the culture averse to bright lights? Loud sounds? Does the culture go into hyperfocus moments? Does it suffer from PDA?

    The only way you could do this is if you were to take stereotypes about how autistic people behave and try to somehow match them to cultural traits.

  • I am unable to visit Japan.

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  • Link to those studies?

    Edit: me being autistic make everything I say useless? Really?

    I really admire your ability to mental gymnastics. No matter what anybody says, you always find a way to tell them their opinion doesn't matter. Must be nice to be so secure in your own superiority that nothing can convince you otherwise.

  • I am unable to visit Japan.

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  • As an autist who studied Japanese and gave up when I realized I just couldn't connect with any of the Japanese people I met - even the ones where it was obvious we wanted to be friends - I can assure you the culture is even more impenetrable for autistics. And I don't have such issues with other autistic people usually, no matter the culture.

    Don't mistake your stereotypes for reality and tell everyone people call you out because of political correctness. You're just plain old wrong in this.

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  • I feel like the more you understand how your brain works, the more you learn how to work around it.

    Full disclosure: I'm not diagnosed, but on a waitlist for ADD - for over a year now and it's not moving, but I digress. I am diagnosed with autism though.

    To me it feels like my brain is a wildwater. You can't control it, but if you change the environment around it, you can guide it into useful directions. I'm lucky that by now the people around me have accepted it and are able to laugh with me when I fuck up. We have a lot of systems in place to reign in the worst effects, and the more we get used to it the easier it gets not to fall into traps and not to be unreliable.

    I guess I'm working on my skills as a mindbender who tricks my brain into being useful while still allowing it to get that dopamine?