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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • It probably is irrational, but humans are pretty irrational.

    I think this kind of tension is inevitable when so many people say “do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life”. Many people with work burnout tried that, and found that they came to hate the thing they love.

    Often, when we get stuck in that rut, we can’t undo the harm that it’s done to our passion, and retraining in a different field may be difficult or impossible. Maybe there was a period where it was possible to toe thelp line and make a career out of a hobby, and an attempt to regain some elements of that. In many cases, it’s dumb as hell to keep throwing oneself at the same thing that made someone burnt out in the first place but sometimes, reclaiming something they love is liberating and healing.

    I say this speaking as an academic who has always found it hard to separate my work from what I love doing, because even my “extracurricular” projects tend to have a fair bit of overlap with my work. I sometimes wish that I was someone who could have a clear divide between work and fun, but to do that, I’d need to find work much further away from my passions.



  • For recommendations and discovery (which was a large part of what kept me with Spotify), I’m a big fan of https://listenbrainz.org/ In the time I’ve been using it, the recommendations have gotten way better, and I appreciate their efforts towards transparency. (Yay for open source)

    You can import listen data from music streaming services, so if anyone is curious, I’d recommend setting it up and seeing how it goes; I only recently got round to cancelling my Spotify, but before then, I had it set up so my Spotify listens would show up on my listenbrainz.

    You’re quite right though that there aren’t any straightforward replacements for Spotify. Personally, I’m returning to the seven seas, which is why I’m so appreciative of listenbrainz — that discovery stuff really was the last big thing chaining me to Spotify


  • It’s also that even time off can be difficult to get, because of a lack of acknowledgement of variability in menstruation. I have seen way too many situations where a manager (or whoever is responsible for okaying time off) underestimates how bad it can be for some people, possibly because no-on close to them has bad periods, so they think that everyone who struggles is playing it up for time off work.

    Something that really icks me out is that there have been a few times where I have been used as a comparator to shame colleagues; I have always been blessed with light and pain free periods, and when I was on hormonal contraception, they actually stopped entirely. This meant I never needed time off for menstrual reasons, and this was used to sort of say “well Ann presumably menstruates and just gets on with things, so why can’t you?”. Many of us have had the experience of asshole managers who micromanage employee sickness and are exhausting to deal with, but there’s a subset of those who are extra assholish around menstruation related sicknesses. Something I’ve seen once was someone who seemed to be tracking the periods of her employees, and would call up to query times if you had taken period related time off and it didn’t fit into her predictions. I can only assume that she was fortunate to have super regular periods, but many people who do suffer enough to need time off work can’t predict their periods to that degree of accuracy.

    But as others have said, it’s not just about time off, but sometimes it’s small stuff like taking additional or longer bathroom breaks. Or, when someone has come back from a menstruation related sick day, jokes like “you feeling better? Great, just make sure you don’t bleed on the chair, haha”, to the entire office. Obviously that’s inappropriate and the kind of thing you’d report to HR, but it’d be less prevalent if people were less weird about menstruation in general.

    In a way, I appreciate your being confused by this, because if more managers thought about this like you do, this wouldn’t be nearly as big of an issue. But way too many people make it weird.




  • Damn, that was a compelling read. When I clicked on the link and saw it was from 1941, I felt a grim resolve to read it in full, because when people post decades old pieces on fascism, it always hits hard (like that Sartre bit about antisemitism that gets shared quite often).

    Reading through this piece was a curious feeling, because I was wondering which of the people at this party I might be. Certainly not Mr A, because I am descended from no-one great. I certainly didn’t go to the same school as any Mr A, so I’m also not Mr B. With a certain sense of dread, I considered that maybe I’m Mr C, given that I also started out very poor and worked my way up to where I am (I’m the first in my family to go to university, for example). I concluded that whereas Mr C’s battle against class has left him cold and hard, I have found myself becoming warmer as the years go on.

    I was thinking like this throughout most of the piece, perversely waiting for someone I will never meet to tell me whether or not I’m the kind of person who becomes a Nazi. In the end, none of the archetypes described seem to fit me. It turns out that although fascism today functions remarkably similarly to how it did then, the world itself is different enough that the archetypes today don’t map onto the past.






  • I feel quite anxious trying to make sense of geopolitical events like this, especially given I’m ashamed of how little thought I gave to Palestine before Israel escalated from apartheid to all-out genocide; as you say, this is a ridiculously complex situation, and the snippets we get on the news are ridiculously oversimplified at best, and egregiously biased at worst.

    Syria seems like a far away, foreign land where conflict is the inevitable norm. But it feels like that’s something that I’m meant to think, because it’s politically useful for people like me to think that way. Unfortunately, simply knowing that you’re subject to propaganda is far easier than actually gaining a more full and nuanced understanding of a conflict.