If you use the word, so can anyone. It's up to you to decide whether you're upset about it, but it's hypocritical to use a word and then claim it's off limits to anyone else.
Just because the cause you donate to is a tax write-off doesn't mean it's charitable. Example: all the charities that Trump used as grifts. His entire family is now forbidden from running "charities".
Also, fuck you for equating monetary donations with actual empathy.
Thanks for that, very enlightening.