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  • How young can you be when you irrevocably mess up your life? and How?

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  • Right, "should I do drugs?" is not a typical choice for a 9 year old to have to make, they should be protected from that. I have heard stories of particularly shitty parents giving drugs to their own young children.

  • How young can you be when you irrevocably mess up your life? and How?

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  • OP is asking about wrong/bad/poor choices etc, the last sentence of their post specifically says it's not about situations that are inflicted upon them.

  • How young can you be when you irrevocably mess up your life? and How?

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  • To be fair, OP is asking about bad/poor/wrong decisions, the last sentence of their post specifically says it's not about situations that are inflicted upon them. No one gets to choose where they are born.

  • What was the dumbest way that you lost a friend?

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  • I did realise that it's a specific situation but as the original post didn't have more context, I didn't see why I shouldn't be allowed to suggest some.

    If OP wants to expand on the situation, they're welcome to.

  • What was the dumbest way that you lost a friend?

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  • I mean, if my friends knew I was a huge fan of the band, were going and weren't like, "tickets are £50, do you want one?" It would sting.

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  • I'm actually really looking forward to lab grown meat becoming an established industry. Not just for the benefits to the environment and animal welfare but because you could feasibly grow the finest lobster meat, fois gras, wagyu steaks etc etc on industrial scales which would lead to much lower prices.

    You could even get in to really exotic meats like mammoth, platypus and giraffe or whatever else.

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  • Before we move over to heat pumps and electric heating, a lot of work needs to be done on insulating homes.

    A heat pump is not more efficient if you have to run it 24/7 to try keeping up with heat loss from single glazed windows and drafts from knackered doors etc.

  • Why do the English pronounce the first name "St. John" as "sinjin" but they pronounce the last name "Saintclair" as "saint clair" (and not "sinclair")?

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  • I live near a village called St John's Town of Dalry and no one says sinjin nor have I heard anyone's name referred to that way.

  • I don't know how to say this to you...

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  • I dk where you Americans are getting the "sure" part from, it's much more like "she-er" or if your more northern it'd be a bit more like "sher".

  • I don't know how to say this to you...

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  • I'm from England and wouldn't pronounce it like this at all. The "woo" sounds like you're a ghost or something and the "sure" part is just outright wrong.

    It's really hard express through text, but I'd say "wuss-ter-she-er" (the wuss part is pronounced the same way as if you're refering to a cowardly person), is much closer. Regional accents could make it different tho.

  • When I buy a physical book, am I entitled to scan for myself?

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  • I imagine it'd be the same as printing of a copy of the Mona Lisa and putting it up on your wall for your own viewing pleasure. Completely legal.

    Where as printing it off and then charging other people to see it would be illegal.

  • What's a good joke present to get your SO for Christmas?

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  • It does make for a funny story, but yh, probably wouldn't give it to the GF!

  • No sex. No dating. No marriage. No children. Interest grows in 4B movement to swear off men

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  • Whatever the source, I don't think it's surprising that women are a lot more selective than men, it makes a huge amount of sense in evolutionary terms.

    And given that a small percentage of men are getting chased by the majority of women, it's unsurprising that they're used to getting screwed over, causing all men to get cast with the same aspersion.

  • What are some of the most overrated vacation destinations?

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  • I know it's unrelated to the thread, but I'd personally never go to a country that doesn't treat, women, gays, apostates etc as equals, I think these countries are absolutely terrible and I'm not fooled by them having "show cities" where they pretend that they're not that way.

    A country that still has a medieval mindset in the third millennium is not getting a penny from me.

  • No sex. No dating. No marriage. No children. Interest grows in 4B movement to swear off men

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  • You make good points. You're getting the wrong end of the stick but I don't think it's worth trying to explaine myself further.

  • No sex. No dating. No marriage. No children. Interest grows in 4B movement to swear off men

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  • I know I generalised but I think what I said is mostly true and I'm just as entitled as you are to put my point of view forward, sorry that I have a different opinion.

    I'd like to make it clear that I'm not saying it's OK to be pushy but making a distinction about showing sexual interest that can sometimes be a grey area and a fine line to tread.

    If you want to go on a hundred dates with the same person before you're OK with sexual escalation to make sure someone has pure intentions or whatever, you do you, but it's not typical and I expect that they'll move on after enough time of wondering why they're dating someone that appears frigid or un-interested in sex.

    One of my best friends said "if I'm on a third date with a guy and he's not made a move, he's probably got a tiny penis". I know that's a horrible thing to say and to hear, but it's true. Most women expect men to make a move at some point and if they don't, she'll be wondering what's wrong.

    There's no need for the hostility, though given the election I understand you're probably just lashing out and it's not personal. I hope you feel better soon.

  • No sex. No dating. No marriage. No children. Interest grows in 4B movement to swear off men

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  • It's factual. The source is Tinder, 80% of women are only swiping on the top 20% of men and I believe that extrapolates to real life, I also don't think it's surprising, I understand why anyone would want an attractive mate. Sorry that upsets you.

  • No sex. No dating. No marriage. No children. Interest grows in 4B movement to swear off men

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  • There's a clear difference between showing sexual interest and being pushy that I don't think your post considers.

    If you're dating a women and don't show any signs of sexual interest she absolutely will be thinking "this guy isn't interested" and move on.

    I don't think it's surprising to say that women also are often uninterested in being friends, but it's still often an expectation that the men will make the first move.

    It's one of the fine lines and grey areas that needs to be trodden in life if you want a satisfying relationship.

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  • Being too nice can definitely be a turn off for women, all though you're never supposed to say it, if you put them on a pedestal it can lead them to think that they can do better. I know that sounds horrible to say, but it's mostly true.

    A lot of women like "manly men", in a world where gender roles are being broken down it's another thing you're not supposed to say, but it's objectively true.

    Natural beauty is pot luck, although it's true that "ugly" guys can do a lot to scrub up and become attractive in other ways. Statistically speaking, 80% of women want the top 20% of men, from that you can extrapolate that their are a lot of people in relationships that are settling. Another harsh truth, but that's life.

    So in short, that's what happens to most of us. Women chase the top 20% which most of us aren't, then when they start getting worried about getting older and becoming a spinster, they settle. You're probably a lot less ugly than you think and a lot more normal!