In my dreams, you lay your sorrow on the table, and the air between us is soft and we have time.
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I think the main problem with assisted suicide is that the providers are afraid of allowing someone to die who could be saved/treated to become well again. Furthermore, I think they need their assurances that you are of clear mind when you’re making that decision. A family member of any sort is probably one of the safest assurances they can get, though I think any good friend would do. Still, the birth certificates of your parents? How tf are you supposed to get all this stuff??
I didn’t think it’d be easy to get but yeah, killing yourself like this isn’t easy, and while I agree it’s ridiculously expensive, I do think there should be a lot of hurdles to deter people from choosing death lightly. The relatives thing is beyond me, however. I hope you find a way that works out for you.
I don’t think there should be a lot of hurdles, it’s a matter of human freedom. People are outraged when abortion or gender reassignments are illegal or difficult to get. Imagine if you weren’t allowed an abortion or gender reassignment unless your family agreed and showed their support.
Oh no, don’t get me wrong, I agree with you on that one, and I also don’t think the family thing should be a thing, but I also don’t think you should be able to knock on their door and ask “Could you help me die?” and they just say yes. It should be easier, but not that easy. And while I do agree that gender reassignment as well as abortion need to be more easily accessible, I think there’s a big difference between those two and assisted suicide. The former are about how you wanna live your life, the latter about how you wanna end it.
Please don’t take this the wrong way, I’m just trying to explain why I disagree about hurdles in general, but not about these hurdles in particular. I think you deserve access to whatever you deem necessary, love, and you have suffered enough. I still believe that with proper healthcare treatment, you wouldn’t have to be in this situation, but we both know it’s not your fault it is this way. I hope this makes sense, and you don’t feel offended by what I’m saying
I think it should be enough to prove your identity with a passport, provide some medical records as evidence of your disease and prognosis and have the two interviews with the clinic that help them decide. The excessive number of ID documents, multiple documents proving your place of residence, parents’ birth certificates as well as yours, expensive sworn statements that you’re not married, dragging family members along, plus years of backdated medical records (I mean, why? Your health now and in the future is what’s relevant, not whether you were sick many years ago) is just excessive and makes it too difficult for many people to access.
I’m not offended, I’m just so exhausted that everything has so many hurdles to get over, especially while my health seems to be deteriorating and every little thing is an effort. I’ll spend my entire life going through benefit appeals and reassessments at best, and at worst they’ll end up stopping disability payments altogether. Every time i need anything I have to beg on here and usually make repeated requests. I am always fighting and struggling to access and keep my medications, and now i can’t even just have an easy exit but have to go through millions of hoops to have a chance of getting to dignitas. I feel like a worn out old horse who should be sent to the knacker’s yard but instead is forced to run a neverending steeplechase.
I agree completely, the medical stuff and documents should be enough to prove your case.
And yes, you deserve better, it’s neither fair nor right that you have to ask for help online and otherwise. There’s a system that is supposed to help you. You shouldn’t be suffering like this, love. I hope the benefit appeal finally works out and you can get some rest. And I also hope you can find a way to work out the dignitas hurdles. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you love.
Thank you. It just infuriates me that it’s usually the same right-wing type people who don’t want me to get disability benefits but also don’t want me being able to access a peaceful end. Like, what do they want me to do? Christians are out there campaigning against assisted suicide but refused to give me a scrap of food when i begged for it. Lefties usually want to see me fed and able to choose a peaceful exit if i want.
I’m going to keep on with dignitas although it seems it will take a while, if it happens at all. Bit by bit if i can get some money here and there I can gradually try to get whatever ID documents I can, get my medical records and if it’s eventually enough to get the green light from dignitas then one day maybe get enough to travel there.