• garbagebagel@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    My parents at 24: oh shit you’re pregnant better get married

    Me at 32 living in sin and child free: is another plant too much responsibility?

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      8 months ago

      I would imagine it’s no worse than people who marry older. My wife was 20 and I was 25 when we got married, that was 15 years ago

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        Why’s that? People grow a lot with maturity and knowing what they actually want out of life between 25-40.

        Of course this process never really stops but between those ages you’re going through a lot of transitions and new experiences. You’re still doing a lot growing up during that period.

        It’s not unfair to say that marrying young is a bad idea because you don’t really know who you are yet and there is a lot of opportunity to grow away from your spouse.

        By the time you’re much older a lot of this is out of the way. You’re lot further into your career and in a more stable place.

        Anyway just my experiences but I don’t think marrying young is a great idea. I’m in my late 30s and I feel like a completely different person compared to my early 20s.

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          Very much so. But if you’re waiting to be a mature grown up before you gave kids you may as well give it up. You’re never mature enough you’re never ready enough. My wife had old parents, her mom was 46 when she was born. Her parents are the most immature people I know

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    8 months ago

    Meh, my cousin didn’t have his first kid until he was in his 40s, ya got plenty of time to figure out, for example, if you even want a partner and kids, or if you just see those as milestones ya gotta tap to not disappoint people around you.

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      8 months ago

      I had kids young, cause the last thing I want is to be raising teenagers in my 50s. By then my kids will be on their own and the wife and I can enjoy the hell out of our child free life when we have more wisdom and money

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        I mean my parents raised me and my sibling when they were that much older and I’d say the two of us are a sight more well adjusted than a significant number of highschool sweetheart honeymoon babies that are running around.

        The point is that it’s not the age, it’s the character of the parent that matters most.

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          Of course, but it doesn’t mean a 25 year old isn’t gonna be a good parent. My mom had me when she was 17 and she’s an incredible mom, her and my dad are still together 40 years later.

          Meanwhile my wife’s parents had her when they were in their 40s and to this day they’re the most immature shit parents I know

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        Statements like this make me believe a lot of people have kids because it’s some item they can check off their list to live up to what society expects from you. Why even have kids if that’s your mentality?

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          Who says I didn’t want my kids? I did, I love em. But we all decide when we want em. I decided I wanted them young, when I have energy and time to give them. I kinda think having kids old is irresponsible and not great health wise

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          I agree with you, and I’m somebody who wanted to be a parent more than anything and now love being a parent. The whole issue of living up to what’s expected of you rather than what matters to you, is pretty pervasive IMO.

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      I had a boss who got married when he was 40 as well. Same as others, I’m also unmarried and in early 30s, but I don’t feel the need to keep up with the Joneses either. I still have many things to do before I feel the need to settle down. There are plenty of people who marry late and don’t regret it. It’s best to figure out first what you want before jumping the gun, simply for the sake of social conformance and then regret it. I’m sure we know of people regretting marrying early, or stick to an unhappy marriage out of insecurity or for whatever reason.

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    Hey I was the bottom guy when I turned 25, by the end of that year I was married, and back to my nerd shit, as she does her own nerd shit. We game together, and have a kid now who games with us.

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      8 months ago

      What a bunch of nerds. What you gonna do nerd? Do what you love with people you care for and be happy with it? What a nerd.

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    8 months ago

    So I was disappointed with how underutilized did of the characters were in Naruto, and with some of the really bad thought processes they had. Controversially I actually did like Kaguya as the final villain though.

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      I know it’s a meme to talk about my boy rock Lee, but literally one of the most hype fight scene powerups of all time, and one of the most compelling characters of no natural talent/bloodline just effort and heart, and they sidelined him hard!

      Rock Lee for hokage 2024!

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        Rock Lee only uses tae (Thai?) jutsu but is one of the few characters I’d expect an entertaining fight from if he went toe to toe with anyone in the series. He wouldn’t necessarily win, but his secret power was that everyone underestimated him, even those who knew he was strong didn’t appreciate just how strong he was until he surprised them.

        It was always hilarious to watch the dynamic between Guy and Lee with Tenten and Negi helplessly watching on as the two worked each other up.

        • 𝔼𝕩𝕦𝕤𝕚𝕒@lemmy.world
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          Agreed, any fight with him is entertaining even if he has no shot at winning. Even when he was bound to lose to kimimaro bro gets drunk and tries anyway, becoming some of the best fights the series would see for awhile.

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    After looking at the production process of Dragonball Daimo I’m very excited. Toriyama played a big role before his passing and the directors are an all star cast including the person who directed One Piece Red. I’m always down for more Dragonball.

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    15-28: I did nerd stuff and played a lot of videogames. Now 39: Married and have four kids, no time for games and nerd stuff is now called: “having a job”

    If I look back, I would do it again in the same way. Time to teach the kids some nerd stuff and videogames.

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      As the oldest Millennial (just scrape in), I insist they peaked at Dragon Ball. A half beaten to death pre-teen launching himself through the bad guy to defeat him? Epic stuff.

      (Married at 22. You can marry young and be in your 40’s discussing Dragon Ball with internet strangers!)