• turmoil [any]@hexbear.net
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      stuff like this really illustrates how fake generations are. you’re in a “different generation” with someone 3 years older, but in the “same generation” as someone 15 years younger, while your partner is in the “same generation” as someone 15 years older

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      it’s very interesting how the “power gap” arguers never use the same argument for other axes of power

      like supposedly it’s a huge power gap if a 30 year old dates a 23 year old
      but it’s not a power gap if a white guy dates a black girl

      makes no sense whatsoever, literally nobody in the history of the world has been shot for being 23 years old

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        Not that I necessarily agree with the age gap discourse (never participated), but isn’t it a different thing with age since it’s about maturation?

        Also, I’ve definitely seen people at least talk about the power dynamics between rich americans dating people in lower income countries. That shit can go sideways fast especially if one individual had the power to decide the other’s visa status.

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          but isn’t it a different thing with age since it’s about maturation?

          Okay but how is maturity is a source of power? (assuming you can even tell someone’s maturity level from age, which is itself a stereotype/very imperfect proxy)

          for the record I think that men who exclusively look at young women are creepy but the discourse around it is the same quality as lib discourse on communism

          I’ve definitely seen people at least talk about the power dynamics between rich americans dating people in lower income countries.

          yea but at like 1% the rate of the age gap stuff

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            I mean, I ain’t gonna go too deep into it because I’m not a fan of age gap discourse myself. But I think a sufficiently large maturation could certainly a large power dynamic (ex - adult and child) because I guess maturation allows one to set boundaries more clearly, recognise when they are crossed and enforce them.