I’m sorry I’m so sad and I don’t have any friend to whom I can come out and I HATE SEEING MYSELF IN REFLECTIONS 😭😭😭

  • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    4·
    4 days ago

    Hi 👋👋

    I’m a fellow trans girl in a country that’s rapidly becoming dangerously unsafe for me 🙃🇺🇲🙃

    I’m not good at being a friend but if you dm me I will reply to you

  • secret300@lemmy.sdf.org
    English
    10·
    7 days ago

    Sure we can be friends. I’m not as chronically online as I used to be but we can still play Minecraft together if you want

    • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
      5·
      6 days ago

      I don’t have Minecraft but I can get it, I usually play on phone IDK if you play bedrock?

      • secret300@lemmy.sdf.org
        English
        5·
        6 days ago

        Nope… I had geyser on my server before so bedrock could play but I’ve been too lazy to update it.

        I’ll buy you Minecraft tho

        • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
          4·
          6 days ago

          I don’t really play on PC i need to buy new battery for my laptop it’s basically dead

  • ellypony@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    6 days ago

    Yes, and please do not be afraid to reach out to people, my DMS are open. Please stay safe!! 💖

    • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
      30·
      8 days ago

      Thanks, I hate dysphoria and it’s impossible to concentrate on studying I wish I was born girl with beautiful vagina and not this stupid worm

  • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    191·
    8 days ago

    what country? I’ve heard there is an organization called the rainbow railroad that helps people escape certain places

    • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
      23·
      8 days ago

      From Croatia, and while laws are not necessarily transphobic (I think I can still transition) society still is especially in smaller towns

      • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        23·
        8 days ago

        I feel you, I live in the South in the U.S. in one of the most transphobic states. I was terrified to come out, but it ended up going much better than I expected. For the most part people just didn’t care, and the worst I got were stares usually from older or hyper-masculine men.

        EDIT: this made me think that a lot of that fear was oversized, more in my head than reality. Transphobic violence is real, but is mostly targeted against poor trans women of color.

        • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
          2·
          7 days ago

          America is kinda weird like that where being a “freak” is almost seen as cool by everyone, but there’s still mad bigotry. i really don’t know how else to explain it, but there’s a live and let live attitude where people just want everyone to leave each other the fuck alone

          • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            3·
            6 days ago

            It’s true, I think it’s that being a freak stimulates people’s hyper-individualism, while the “man in a dress” (the feminine gender expression on a “male”) stimulates certain men’s homophobia (fear they might accidentally find me attractive) and insecurities in their masculinity (a generalized tendency to engage other men in a way that puts down femininity and promotes hyper-masculinity).

            For the most part I was only ever bothered by overly aggressive men who would probably have been assholes in the world generally - it seemed to me the problem was with them and their fragile masculinity more than anything else.

        • Syl@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          201·
          8 days ago

          poor trans women of color

          The more of these words apply to you, the worse it is:

          1. poor
          2. trans
          3. woman
          4. of color
          • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            12·
            8 days ago

            it really do be bad - though obviously violence exists against all LGBT+ identities, by the numbers it hits trans women of color the hardest, and these women are more likely to be sex workers, more likely to contract HIV, and more likely to be victims of crime. Women in general are at greater risk of being a victim of violent crime.

        • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
          13·
          7 days ago

          I did, ever since I was child I always wanted to go somewhere where no one knows me and live life as a woman, but right now I can’t go because I go to university and plan to finish it and maybe find job in food industry somewhere outside.

    • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
      13·
      8 days ago

      Hugg! 🫂🫂 I love hugs and I love platonic friendships hugs are best 🫂🫂

  • yoriaiko@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    14·
    8 days ago

    Hi Una! Aye, even if law may not be bad, minds of societies changes much slower.

    That may feel boring, You probably heard that already, but if You feel unsafe - keep Your safety as top prio, keep dreaming, delay things if needed, but stay safe, to bloom other day (if not yet today).

    Then, do more research, maybe some peoples around You are not transphobic, but only uneducated? Maybe there is some sanctuary around? Maybe other, hidden pro-lgbt persons are nearby (if You are afraid, they probably are afraid too, and hidden)?

    Much HUGSIE from similar country not so far \o/

    • Una@europe.pubOPEnglish
      9·
      7 days ago

      Thanks, hug I found online another trans girl from same country and we talk to each other. Also I was on boo dating app and found awesome queer friends