That really sucks. I’ve been the mediator friend for a lot of friendship networks and sometimes it’s so exhausting to feel like the only thing keeping people and relationships together. 🫂

It sounds like some of your friends have a lot of self-loathing and they should work on that. While you can encourage them, it’s important to know that it’s not your job to help everyone around you love themselves. They have to do that work, because otherwise it won’t actuallyheal.

It’s a lot to put on other people, and all to often people don’t even realize they’re doing it. Sometimes I think people feel like other people will just only engage at a level they’re comfortable with, not realizing there are people out there who will treat it as a duty or responsibility to deal with anything a friend presents them.

Because my medley of neurodivergence and trauma will always tell me to help a friend, at any cost. I have to work hard to not do that.

Don’t forget to take time for yourself.