Want to know what’s even more sad about it? He was my best friend for nearly 30 years 😥 I’ve dropped all contact with him. He also can’t face facts that goes against his personal beliefs, stating that the science must be wrong, because it does not fit into his world view - this is in reference to him stating that “100% of the people how transition regrets it”. I found science papers showing that 1% regrets it, meaning 1 in 100. He said that it should be illegal to transition becuae of this. I ask “So one of one hundred people regret it, then it should be illegal for everyone?” “Yes”…
He had a girlfriend for some time, around 13 years ago. I met my friend two years ago, and asked him how long they were together. His response “I can’t remember. She was just a placeholder girlfriend until I found someone better. You know how it is for us males” and my jaw fucking dropped. I tried for months to get him out of the psychotic thoughts, but it fell on deaf ears, so I told him that he should only contact me again if he ever sees how his world view is wrong.
That’s rough. It’s actually even less than 1%, and moreover when you compare this to the population average regret for all surgeries including things like knee or hip replacements which IIRC is around 14% from a study in NA, it’s even more shocking how well transition works for trans people.
Good on you for giving him some chances, but he got himself down that rabbit hole and he is the one that will have to pull himself out by the bootstraps that he loves so much.
Deeply saddening to read about these kinds of people.
Want to know what’s even more sad about it? He was my best friend for nearly 30 years 😥 I’ve dropped all contact with him. He also can’t face facts that goes against his personal beliefs, stating that the science must be wrong, because it does not fit into his world view - this is in reference to him stating that “100% of the people how transition regrets it”. I found science papers showing that 1% regrets it, meaning 1 in 100. He said that it should be illegal to transition becuae of this. I ask “So one of one hundred people regret it, then it should be illegal for everyone?” “Yes”…
He had a girlfriend for some time, around 13 years ago. I met my friend two years ago, and asked him how long they were together. His response “I can’t remember. She was just a placeholder girlfriend until I found someone better. You know how it is for us males” and my jaw fucking dropped. I tried for months to get him out of the psychotic thoughts, but it fell on deaf ears, so I told him that he should only contact me again if he ever sees how his world view is wrong.
Rant over lol
That’s rough. It’s actually even less than 1%, and moreover when you compare this to the population average regret for all surgeries including things like knee or hip replacements which IIRC is around 14% from a study in NA, it’s even more shocking how well transition works for trans people.
Yeah bottom surgery has the highest regret rate (largely due to complications) at lower than many immediately lifesaving surgeries.
That’s rough bud.
Good on you for giving him some chances, but he got himself down that rabbit hole and he is the one that will have to pull himself out by the bootstraps that he loves so much.