If you can’t respect people legally changing their names, then don’t get mad when people ignore ‘they/them’ pronouns and misgender people.

There are people who have legally changed their first names or last names, and some family members will still call them by their birth surname. I find this extremely disrespectful. What makes it worse is that these same people will say we need to respect people’s pronouns and respect them, but they don’t respect someone changing their name? If they don’t respect calling people by their new names, then don’t get mad when people don’t respect people’s pronouns. I’ll go a step further: if those people who don’t respect people’s names or pronouns are called a racial slur, I don’t care and feel no sympathy. If it’s okay for them to be disrespectful to people, then they can be disrespected too.