Now that it's post xmas I want to remind those who are living independently: you can just stop talking to your parent(s)

I stopped talking to my mom like 2 years ago and YMMV but everyone who has tried to talk to me on her behalf ends up agreeing with my decision when the facts are all laid out.

Most people just say "good for you! Her loss!" If they're not emotionally invested.

Maybe next year you don't have to spend the entire winter stressed out about avoiding conflict or masking.

Don't like it? Hit da bricks