I went to reddit and I think I saw a dialectic happening

in responce, one user wrote

whataboutism

the technique or practice of responding to an accusation or difficult question by making a counter-accusation or raising a different issue.

and someone else replied

Nevercomparism

The technique or practice of responding to any comparison to a point someone made with whataboutism, even when it doesn't fit because it wasn't a counter-argument and was about the same issue.